How important is romance to you?

[Simcity11100 772]

I think it's not important, if I were to fall in love, it would take a magical spell because I fell that much better as a single and I am always happy to where only the really negative things can affect me.

[BookWorm 47]

I also have Asperger's, so I understand what that feels like. I also agree with you completely about the "back room" thing. That being said, there's some experiences and advice I'd like to share with you from one aspie to another. Take it or leave it; I just feel as though I should throw in my personal experience with dating.

 

I've dated before, and it was just awkward most of the time. After three unsuccessful attempts, I eventually realized that I love writing so much more than any one woman. I'm a writer, through and through, and I would so much rather spend my alone time reading my books and perfecting my craft than awkwardly trying to connect to someone on a romantic level. Romance is great, but it isn't necessarily the most important thing. What it really is, in my opinion, is one way to give meaning to life. That's great, but there are so many other ways to find meaning in life, whether that be art or charity or what-have-you. You don't need to now, but at some point in your life you'll see what really gets you passionate about living. Whether that be another person or something else is up to you. I discovered writing; I wish you the best in finding your calling.

[Princess_Molestia 1,460]

I also have Asperger's, so I understand what that feels like. I also agree with you completely about the "back room" thing. That being said, there's some experiences and advice I'd like to share with you from one aspie to another. Take it or leave it; I just feel as though I should throw in my personal experience with dating.

 

I've dated before, and it was just awkward most of the time. After three unsuccessful attempts, I eventually realized that I love writing so much more than any one woman. I'm a writer, through and through, and I would so much rather spend my alone time reading my books and perfecting my craft than awkwardly trying to connect to someone on a romantic level. Romance is great, but it isn't necessarily the most important thing. What it really is, in my opinion, is one way to give meaning to life. That's great, but there are so many other ways to find meaning in life, whether that be art or charity or what-have-you. You don't need to now, but at some point in your life you'll see what really gets you passionate about living. Whether that be another person or something else is up to you. I discovered writing; I wish you the best in finding your calling.

 

though I loved writing it still never really filled any void, it was an escape, not a passion-despite the fact I thought it was one

having aspergers has really shown me the uglyness in this world, I realized early on that I was the odd one and had to change, and despite how much you try, you are still separated from everyone

stuck in your own broken mind

and thats what its like for me, and it will be like this forever

life is ugly, everything about it

[Gone for good 1,593]

You know, I would love to be in a relationship with someone right now but I'm just one step above being homeless and I don't have a job or any money whatsoever, soo group outings and what not are at the bottom of my list.

 

I've dated before, and obviously none of them really worked out in the long run. Still, I guess once I get a job and am able to support myself to a degree getting into a relationship would be nice.

[Phoenix Dirac Wright 121]

Romance to me is like a cup of black coffee mixed up with milk, making the taste muky and strange and yet the entire thing stirs up a whole cult of coffee lovers.

But it still all depends on your taste of coffee.

What it means is that when 2 things mix up together, they get too much attention and lots of people notice it but the taste of it is just awful and too vague.

Some people may or may not like it but a majority won't.

 

On a personal note, I hate mixing these things up. I rather have the concentrated taste of something instead of it being obsure and vague. It's kinda awful to taste these things like that.

[GrooveBroove 680]

I have never really understood why young teens "date". It really makes no sense to me... because they really dont know what love is yet. But back to the topic, Yeah Romance isn't really a big importance for me right now, I am only 16 why should I be dating? there are so many other things I could be doing.

 

However If I was to describe my perfect romance... cuddling... lots and lots of cuddling nuff said.

 

So agree to this, too many people just jump into "dating/relationships" which to me just means you're missing out on so much more.

Though obviously it's always a case by case bases though.

[Shiki 5,855]

Romance when I am single is not important to me, but romance when I am in a relationship is at the utmost importance in that relationship. There is a reason I am in love with you, and I would love to show you such.

After reading this little piece of your post right here, I couldn't help but gain a big grin on my face.

 

I've never really wanted to partake in romance, but reading things like this, and hearing sweet stories about other peoples' relationships is just nice for some reason.

[Laydee Kaze 400]

This seems to be more a 'I do/don't like dating thread' so far.

 

Personally, romance is sort of a priority to me, in terms of the relationship. I'm very content with my current one, as we get along so well. We were friends prior to it, and we still are, and that's what makes it great. We can just hang about and do things friends do, like mess about on games and such, yet still have the romantic side. Kissing, cuddling, etc. Relationships get boring pretty fast if you don't have romance within them.

 

I've read people on this thread having bad experiences like rejection and stuff, and saying that it's put them off dating, etc. But I don't think you can really understand a relationship, and romance, etc, until you've actually been in one. That said, I've been in a few prior to this one, and had terrible experiences that's probably inappropriate to post, so I'll leave that for another time.

[HomuraBL 851]

When it comes to a girl, I want her to care. I don't want a relationship for the sake of having a relationship, I want someone to care. Someone who has all the traits I like. Someone who has the same interest as me, but differs slightly so as we are not completely the same and can share our interest better.

 

So is romance important, yes. I find love a special thing. I'm a loyal guy so I would stay with my girlfriend forever. I would want her to stay with me in return.

 

I also never got the "just friends thing." Dating is suppose to show if you two should or not. And if both sides were mature enough in their breakup, they can remain friends. If they are immature about, they shouldn't be friends in the first place.

 

Overall, I love the idea of romance, which is also why I love shipping. TwiPie being the cutest.

 

And there is a girl I do like, and she does know it. She is basically everything I could want.

[BookWorm 47]

though I loved writing it still never really filled any void, it was an escape, not a passion-despite the fact I thought it was one

having aspergers has really shown me the uglyness in this world, I realized early on that I was the odd one and had to change, and despite how much you try, you are still separated from everyone

stuck in your own broken mind

and thats what its like for me, and it will be like this forever

life is ugly, everything about it

 

Having Asperger's is a daily struggle, but that doesn't make you or your mind broken. You just think differently. Society will judge you for it, but this is the same society that idolizes Jersey Shore and spray tans. If anything, it's you who has to suffer their broken minds. If you feel separated from those morons, you should feel better about yourself for it. Even if cutting ties with that many people may make you feel alone, you will never be alone. If you have an problem, I'm sure anyone at MLP forums would be willing to help you. Find the people who care about you and who you care about, then find your great passion in life. Life is too short to spend with people and things that make you miserable. You mentioned writing but said it was just a distraction. Every passion is a distraction, really. The place where it gets mixed up is where every distraction isn't a passion. Think of it this way: a distraction is a fun thing to take your mind off reality; a passion is a distraction you want to devote all of your time to. It's something you feel is worth taking the time to do right.

 

In short, society is dumb and you should spend your time with people who care about you instead of them. Once you find your crowd, then find what you enjoy doing. As a writer, I'd be excited to see you pick up the craft, but it's up to you.

 

By the way, this guy is all kinds of awesome and he also has Asperger's. Maybe he'll help to cheer you up somewhat:

 

[Jokuc 8,173]

I hope I answer this question correctly now, haha.

 

To be honest, I considered romance to not really be my thing. I did not care about meeting a girl so I could be all romantic and stuff.

 

..But then that day came. Now I love to be all romantic and stuff, even though I don't even know if I am good at it or if I suck. I now think that romance is important and a nice thing. It is not just my opinion on romance that changed.. Alot of things in my life changed. Many opinions I had on stuff and the way I think act etc. Everything has been changed since that day.

 

Yeah I am going a bit off-topic here, let's just say romance is quite important to me.

[Sky 746]

I can be extremely romantic with people I like but to be honest I just do that to get what I want at the age im at all the girls are to immature and stupid for my tastes (Well the ones in my school are at least)

[Clover Heart 978]

Even though I live with my boyfriend, I'd say it's relatively somewhere in the middle of the list. There are things which take precedence, even within my relationship over romance. We both have rather busy schedules and don't get to see each other as often as I'd like. That kinda cuts into romance time. At the same time, there are times where I want to be left alone, for some reason or other. Usually that I'm working on a project, or something. So sometimes there's time for it, sometimes there's not.

 

...I'm not cynical, I'm practical!

[WildCard 1,037]

Romance is THE factor for me in a relationship, I honestly don't see any appeal in being in one that lacks romance.

But relationship for me is something that I would like to have, like someone else might like to have a car. It would be nice, but I want a good one that lasts for a longer time.

And to be honest I've only found one girl so far where the chemistry was ok and with whom flirting was fun. With all the others it felt like walking through a minefield.

A big problem for me is that I hate "leading" something. I am good in a team but I really dislike making decisions and taking actions, things most girls expect from a boy. I also have the feeling that most girls don't understand me and wouldn't make a good partner, and those who would aren't the ones you find in a club at the weekend.

[Princess_Molestia 1,460]

Having Asperger's is a daily struggle, but that doesn't make you or your mind broken. You just think differently. Society will judge you for it, but this is the same society that idolizes Jersey Shore and spray tans. If anything, it's you who has to suffer their broken minds. If you feel separated from those morons, you should feel better about yourself for it. Even if cutting ties with that many people may make you feel alone, you will never be alone. If you have an problem, I'm sure anyone at MLP forums would be willing to help you. Find the people who care about you and who you care about, then find your great passion in life. Life is too short to spend with people and things that make you miserable. You mentioned writing but said it was just a distraction. Every passion is a distraction, really. The place where it gets mixed up is where every distraction isn't a passion. Think of it this way: a distraction is a fun thing to take your mind off reality; a passion is a distraction you want to devote all of your time to. It's something you feel is worth taking the time to do right.

 

In short, society is dumb and you should spend your time with people who care about you instead of them. Once you find your crowd, then find what you enjoy doing. As a writer, I'd be excited to see you pick up the craft, but it's up to you.

 

By the way, this guy is all kinds of awesome and he also has Asperger's. Maybe he'll help to cheer you up somewhat:

 

http-~~-//www.youtube.com/watch?v=B9O_A4q7WlY

 

how old are you

 

life, at least not mine, isn't so cut and dry.In my 24 years of life, I have learned Its more then just finding someone who shares your interest and will get along with

sometimes you don't find them.

I've found many crowds, but none I truly felt a part of. Maybe it was the people, or the interest itself

life isn't that easy, nor is it so cut and dry

Edited August 15, 2012 by Barkion

[Dusty Soul 2,611]

I'm impartial to it right now. I like romance and everything, but it's not that big of a deal to me. I started dating at an age I know is too young (12). Not proud of that. At that time it was everything to me. I longed for it. Now I see how stupid I was.

[--Eve-- 351]

In all 14 years I've lived I have never really wanted to date anybody. Sure I've thought about it by never have I seriously considered it. In my opinion it would just slow me down, being the smart shy kid(i still have plenty of friends!)at the top of the class.

[Crispy 5,563]

First off, I have to say that the tag "get in the kitchen" made me laugh loud enough to draw attention from co-workers.

 

Anyway, a relationship would be welcomed by me. Doesn't seem to be in the cards right now, though. I'm terribly shy, to boot.

[Viscra Maelstrom 3,718]

First off, I have to say that the tag "get in the kitchen" made me laugh loud enough to draw attention from co-workers.

 

Anyway, a relationship would be welcomed by me. Doesn't seem to be in the cards right now, though. I'm terribly shy, to boot.

 

i'll just have to jump into this thread like this to say that i find it surprising you're calling yourself terribly shy. i haven't noticed that at all the whole time i've been here.

[Crispy 5,563]

i'll just have to jump into this thread like this to say that i find it surprising you're calling yourself terribly shy. i haven't noticed that at all the whole time i've been here.

 

This is the internet. I don't feel shy here.

 

In real life, I'm usually quiet and I don't speak much unless spoken to.

[Silver Boulder 123]

This always had bothered me honestly.

 

I don't hate romance, I do have an interest in finding me a mate but as of now, I'm 20 years old and trying to get into college after a family divorce. I have a lot of things on mind besides dating

 

I've seen it multiple times, young ones whom I've seen as well as a friend of mine who decided to get married...in high school...SURPRISE it didn't go well, divorce! Along with another friend of mine Austin who wanted to marry this male he told me about but found out he was cheated on so he threw that out the window.

 

Why date so young? *Shrugs* Eh, I don't know. Even so, if they get upset or want someone to talk to, I'm there for them definitely because...love and tolerance and all that good stuff :3

[Lex 33]

Romance isn't that important to me. I mean, if I had a boyfriend I would love for him to show his romantic side once in a while, but I'm not the kind of girl that wants flowers for an anniversary and all that shit. What the hell am I going to do with flowers?! Look at them? Wow. Exciting -_-

 

I don't have a boyfriend at the moment, and I don't necessarily want one. I have a very busy life, and I guess I'm just too lazy to try and keep a relationship going. I'm at school all day, and after school I'm either working or doing other social activities. Then I come home, take care of our horses, slave over my schoolwork, watch some MLP, and go to bed. Weekends are pretty much the same - work all day, go hang out with friends during the nights. I have a lot of guy friends and they're awesome but they either already have girlfriends or we've been friends too long that it would be weird to progress any further.

 

People tell me I'm pretty, but no guys ever ask me out? And when they do, they turn out to be a douche. SIGHHHH. But anyway! To answer your question - yes, it would be nice to have a special somepony, but it's not at the top of my list right now.

[Envy 6,169]

It's very important to me... I'm so lonely, but at the same time I have decided that it's probably not something that I should pursue.

 

The last love I had was great, and I will always treasure that memory. However, it (romance in general) must remain a memory. Just glad I got to have it at all, you know?

 

I say all of that, yet I still have crushes. >.< If only I could take some of that "I have no interest in romance" mindset from the rest of you. Although I was there at one point... actually a few points... It doesn't last. No matter what you think. lol

[Princess_Molestia 1,460]

Romance isn't that important to me. I mean, if I had a boyfriend I would love for him to show his romantic side once in a while, but I'm not the kind of girl that wants flowers for an anniversary and all that shit. What the hell am I going to do with flowers?! Look at them? Wow. Exciting -_-

 

I don't have a boyfriend at the moment, and I don't necessarily want one. I have a very busy life, and I guess I'm just too lazy to try and keep a relationship going. I'm at school all day, and after school I'm either working or doing other social activities. Then I come home, take care of our horses, slave over my schoolwork, watch some MLP, and go to bed. Weekends are pretty much the same - work all day, go hang out with friends during the nights. I have a lot of guy friends and they're awesome but they either already have girlfriends or we've been friends too long that it would be weird to progress any further.

 

People tell me I'm pretty, but no guys ever ask me out? And when they do, they turn out to be a douche. SIGHHHH. But anyway! To answer your question - yes, it would be nice to have a special somepony, but it's not at the top of my list right now.

 

the nicer sorts are either taken or are far too shy...or are shunned/put in the friendzone

they are very few of them you will ever see in a romantic light

[Dr_Waveband 745]

I'm not really into this dating thing either. I have Asperger's, but I'm not asexual or completely indifferent to romance. I'm just more interested in other things, and rarely find anyone I meet attractive in any way.

 

I wouldn't want to spend my whole life alone, definitely not! But I have a feeling that the special one for me will first be a good friend: I don't want to take strangers out for a date. In any case, it's not something to consider quite yet.