What's so great about growing up? Is it inevitable?

[SweetJeans88 408]

  On 2013-01-08 at 3:25 AM, wartorious said:

My dad's generation would shun anything animated calling it 'childish' ... Why aren't there adult play areas?

 

 

There's lots of adult-targeted cartoons now.  parents nowadays still arent seeing that just because its animated doesnt mean its automatically safe/made for your kid.  the 90s had Rocko's Modern life and ren and stimpy for petes sake!

 

and i long for a big persons jungle gym too!  the minute you advertise ADULT PLAY PARK youre gonna get those folks thinking its X-rated lmao.  i cant fit in those tubes at funstation anymore, and god forbid if i were a man trying to crawl around in there!  theyd have me arrested for a pedo! D:  instead im just the girl they assume is one of thems babysitter lmao.

 

anyhoo, youd have teens hanging out with raging hormones defiling the dark recesses of your recess area  i know its difficult balancing one's heart against their head and their hormones.. but really....

 

 

growing up isnt that bad, i mean yeah youre gonna have to pay bills and do crap you dont want in order to do that, but the other option is homelessness and no fun ever.  i think its just the approach you have at it.  i will always have the graces and faults of the young.  that being said, its not fair to expect your spouse to raise yalls kids, and you.  you can be mature and still child-like.

[Fender 1,284]

All in all, life is whatever you make of it, no matter your age. As cheesy as it sounds, it's the truth, as you grow, you inherit and are given more and more responsibility. Whether or not you handle those responsibilities and/or HOW you handle them is fully up to you and you can be positive about it, or you can just be plain negative about it. Make the best of whatever you encounter throughout life, it'll make your life a whole helluva lot better if you do. After all, there's a bright side to everything.

[concertoldham 140]

I know that most are out there to make something dynamic or memorable about their lives, but that's not my goal at all. I honestly just want to do what I want to do whether that is doing nothing all day or travelling the world.

 

I often get disappointed by all of the things adults do just because it's "what adults do". I don't care to have children and I don't even know if I want to get married. I don't really want to work at an important job. I honestly would be content to work at a video store or a comic shop, but people have expectations of me and even while part of me just says 'screw them', I don't want to end up with nobody either. So I often feel trapped.

 

Growing up so far has been less than perfect for me, but my childhood wasn't glamorous either.

 

So meh.   

[Lightning Dasher 149]

For as many great things there are about growing up, there's an equal amount of negative things. It's just how you they are thrown at you in life. I mean, I would much prefer a plushie being thrown at me then a spear that when it passes through me, my beliefs will be skewered and changed for the rest of my living days and ruined because of reality. It all comes down to how you handle lifes challenges. The better you're able to cope with growing up and handling responsibility, the better off you will be then someone who ignores those things until it's too late to catch up. But even in that situation, someone's entire life can change after one moment, so no matter where you are in life, just keep on going and look at the positive things.

Ignoring the bad things won't help either.

With all that being said though, I was all about doing things that were adult appropriate before being an adult. Did it ever get less awesome? No. It's still awesome. Except now when people complain about it in one way or another, it doesn't matter as much if you don'e care.

[Two-of-Hearts 168]

I find that when I start worrying about my age, I just need to remind myself that life is silly, and the lighter you take things the happier you tend to be. To that end, I enjoy watching this when I feel the 'weight of my age.'

 

 

 

It makes me smile.

[Balamb 29]

I'm not sure how warranted a fear of growing up is. For everyone I know who left high school or college and just fell into a slump where their best days were said to be behind them, there''s someone who didn't come into their own and find peace with themselves and their problems or what they really love until well into adulthood. It's not fun, but it brings some advantages.

[GoldenShield 46]

I understand where you're coming form, personally the way I see it is, life is all about having fun, the problem alot of people seem to have is that they focus on the destination in life when the journey is what really matters. Enjoy life, yes it won't always be fun but it doesn't have to be boring either, I am currently 19 and in University but I'm still having fun, I watch movies, play video games, party and hang out with friends and listen to music (sometimes when no one is around I also go across the road from my house and play on the swing sets as well XD) but I still do all my study and work on my subjects and learn because I find that fun too, I like finding out new things. The most important thing though is your job, see a job is very important for adults because we have to provide for ourselves but that doesn't mean your job can't be fun, that's why I'm studying to become a Psychologist, because I want to help others deal with their problems in life, to make their lives happier and better.

 

Personally, when I get to the end of my life and I'm looking back on it all, I won't ask myself "How much have I accomplished?" but rather "Have I enjoyed my life?" and I know that the answer will be yes. Life is an adventure so enjoy it and it won't matter if you reach any destinations!

[lilymalady123 203]

"Hey lily!"

 

Yeah?

 

"Let's read all the posts in THOS thread!"

 

Ok... Nope, to long.

 

In all seriousness though. I'm 14 (still growing) but my friends say I act about 8. You know why? When all else fails you, you don't are what anyone thinks. You start to think what do YOU want? I want my innocence and childhood back. That won't happen (pig!!! Swine!!! Rot in hell you bastard!!!) so I go as close to the moon as I can without Huston pulling me back to earth.

[khaine21x3 789]

@@wartorious,

 

Alcohol or drug consumption isn't bad when done i moderation but some people tend to abuse those substances, I only drink a small glass of alcohol on special occasions without getting drunk then proceed to drink lots of water to minimize alcohol effects.

 

The people who hold the power always discriminates against the powerless regardless of the subject, those people will change their mind real quick if you have power over them like being able to get them fired or screw them over legally/financially whenever you feel like it.

Edited January 15, 2013 by khaine21x3

[silvadel 1,393]

You set your own goals — they do not need to be the same ones society sets.

 

Some people work towards having as much money as they can muster.  Some work just as hard but blow it all on their lifestyle.  Then there are some who work less and pursue other interests.  You do NOT have to work 60 hours a week to eek out a living. 

 

At any rate, I am about to turn 44 and I still do things like watch my little ponies, and read and write fanfics, etc.  You do not have to set aside what society generally expects you to.

[Freewave 1,145]

My teen years were pretty awful, I didn't feel comfortable in my own skin. It wasn't until i went to college, discovered myself and music that i began to really start feeling whole. Finding a companion (i'm married) is a huge part of feeling complete too and when you're younger you likely won't even realize or have the means yet to have that happen when you want. While getting older means working for a living it also means being able to play and have fun when you want to and being able to do what you want to. It's much better than having a parent being your perpetual babysitter. Growing up isn't that hard if you don't feel old in the inside which you likely won't.

[SrFrog 927]

In mind and body if we were to stay in that phase of our life's, than we would never make it in the real world. Simple as that, now that's not to say that you can't be a child in soul and spirit. Because if you were to entirely get rid of that part of one's self, than the world would be a far more serious place.

[Freewave 1,145]

People also forget that raising children in may ways is discovering your childhood again. Seeing the world again through their eyes and experiencing things that you likely forgot about. There's a reason why MLP was designed for both kids and their parents, because it's enjoyable for both. I think i have more fun going through the pony aisle at Target then my daughter does....

[Harmonic Revelations 8,835]

I suppose that new generations bring new ideas. And the older generation will always resist the new one, it's human nature. But the new generation almost always wins out, globalizing that age's ideas and virtues, for the better or for the worse.

 

Aging on a personal level is a journey of self-discovery where you find who you truly are and make peace with it.

Edited January 18, 2013 by Harmonic Revelations

[HallowsEve 52]

I turned 22 a few months ago. Yes, getting older is a pain in the butt. It can suck. It truly can. No matter what age you are, the grass is going to be greener on the other side. When you are young, you want to be older. Then when you are older, you want to be young. As everyone gets older they do have to "man up" and get a job, pay bills.. however that doesn't mean you can't be a kid at heart. I've been through a fair share of loss and pain. However, that doesn't mean I can't be a child. No matter how old you get you can still love those things that you did when you were a kid. I still love video games, silly tv shows, and My Little Pony. 

 

I seem to be drifting from the main point of all this. 

 

Growing up sucks now. Being in high school sucked then. And perhaps in the future we will hate where we are and wish to be at this point again. Like they say, "you don't know what you have until it's gone." 

 

Well that sounded depressing.

[Betez 1,734]

I honestly can't wait until I turn 18. I'll get to go to college, live on my own for the first time, provide for myself, and truly experience what it's like being an adult.

[Ember Gleam 167]

Yeah so I am 30 and....... still have yet to grow up lol.  I mean I have been out their and experienced  the grown up aspect of life.  I have been to college, held jobs in the work force, hell I have even fought in a couple of wars. After having done all that than I can safely say that if that is what the "grown up" world has to offer than they can keep it! I mean of course I will grow old, continue to work , ect, but I will not change the way I feel on the inside or the things that I like just because I am an adult. Life is so short and precious. After loosing many friends, and brothers in arms I have come to this conclusion: To hell with what society and people think. I am going to enjoy the things that make me happy and smile. Brony community, I have you all to thank for helping me realise this. You are all AWESOME! Do not set aside the things that you like and love just because  society deems you " too old".

[featheredone 56]

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[decoherence 183]

I'm old enough now that I can say I've held down a full time job for nearly half my life. I dropped out of school to work, so I started early.

 

The main difference between 17 year old me and 31 year old me is that my reactions to things are now informed by more experience, for better or worse. I've learned, which is inevitable if you're alive.

 

Other things are circumstantial. I'm independent which means I have to exercise more self-discipline. I pay taxes (which isn't as scary or hard as some people make out, at least in canada.) I'm not a father and I'm not in any kind of relationship. If I get bored of my life, I can just go start another one (wouldn't be the first time!) So in that regard, I'm not as 'grown up' as some, nor do I currently have any desire to be. 

 

Basically, if you can hold your own in the world, you can make your life what you want. I guess that's what being 'grown up' means. I understand that it can be harder when you have a family to support but it can still be done, especially if you work together.

Edited January 19, 2013 by decoherence

[Doctor-Whooves 288]

Growing up adds responsibility, and I don't like that. I want to become a little kid again, with no jobs or anything except to have fun being a kid.

[Freewave 1,145]

  On 2013-01-19 at 7:52 AM, Doctor-Whooves said:

Growing up adds responsibility, and I don't like that. I want to become a little kid again, with no jobs or anything except to have fun being a kid.

 

Yeah that's not realistic. Life can be fun and you can definitely allocate those moments of youothful bliss and joy but throwing away all responsibility isn't an option and neither is turning back the clock.

[Crispy 5,563]

It's a double edged sword, y'all.

 

On the one hand, you load up on responsibilities.  Jobs, bills, wife, kids, all sorts of stuff.

 

However, being able to do essentially whatever you want is pretty rad, too.

[Sugarcube 213]

I love being an adult and being in charge of myself and the things I do. Yes there are bills, and housework to be done and other responsiblities, but that is just life, and the rewards attached to them are amazing to me.

 

I am 22 going on 23 and my boyfriend is 30 going on 31, we have far from.given up.cartoons or action.figures or enjoying "childish" things like going to toy stores to look at all the awesome toys or playing video games for hours on end on the weekends. Being "grown up" and taking care of all the responsiblities first (like housework, paying bills, etc etc). Means we get to do those things because we worked hard to deserve them, we get to go on trips on occassion and there is no suit wearing or being miserable. Yes it is stressful sometimes but that is just life.

 

I have control over my living space and I get to make my own choices, I enjoy grocery shopping, I enjoy cleaning my apartment and paying my bills because I find it rewarding to be creating my own safe place and enviroment, something I didn't always have growing up, I have the ability now to do many things I wished for as a child

[Skyplume 36]

I'm 28, moved out of my parents house last year, work full-time at this job for 6 years. Getting married soon.

I've been working since I was 16, having to help my dad pay the bills because mom couldn't work. I feel that when I had to start taking care of myself and my folks; typically grown up things, that's when I hit adulthood, and it's felt relatively the same since then.

 

I never did drugs. I never had anything handed to me and I'm grateful for all that I have and I'm proud to have earned it all.

I'm almost done paying off my car that I bought new. I'm paying for my college education.

 

It was rough going during high school. Very very rough mentally and physically, but it's made me a stronger and wiser person. I'm genuinely content now and love helping those going through tougher times.

 

I still act like a kid. I watch cartoons, collect toys, act goofy, giggle at inappropriate things. My car is decked-out in plushies and fandom.

I have the balance of professionalism while still being a child at heart. I think if people found this ability, the ability to not worry and take things as they come, maybe there would be less people reliant on medication to make them happy. (Medications I used to be on).

[Lunas Husband 2,777]

Ah growing up... what a bucked up thing to have to do.. 

 

Sure being adult is kind of cool, get to stay up late, get to go see R rated movies, get to drink when I want to...

 

Then the shit parts about it.. Have to find a job, find a place to live, pay taxes etc. its just no fun most days.