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When I was a child and teenager I was very shy and socially awkward. I'm still a bit socially awkward but I care less about what other people think of me.

 

I remember my Psychology tutor asking the class whether we consider ourselves extrovert or introvert, I said introvert and my tutor was taken aback and thought I would say extrovert. This is when I realised that I wasn't considered shy anymore. I prefer spending time alone but I'm not shy around people anymore.

 

I was also a lot more pessimistic when I was a teenager.

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I used to be like that too, very immature as well which was a lot to do with my disability that I have had all my life. I'd like to think that I have dealt with it a lot better since I left high school though, socialising tends to be a bit easier nowadays.

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I used to be like that too, very immature as well which was a lot to do with my disability that I have had all my life. I'd like to think that I have dealt with it a lot better since I left high school though, socialising tends to be a bit easier nowadays.

I have a disability too, Ehlers Danlos Syndrome. I'm dealing with that a lot better too. I used to deny I had it and thought the doctors could have been wrong, even though I was diagnosed when I was two and it's obvious I have it. I was just convincing myself I was "normal"

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Sadly, I'm not sure I have changed as much as I'd hoped since my high school days. I used to think I had overcome my flaws from back then, but now I realize some have just changed shape (being very opinionated), while others are still there... They just lay dormant at times (being dramatic, stirring up trouble). Me being depressing has probably only got worse, just, once again, it's changed shape. To be fair, things happened in my life that caused that this time around. I think the direction I was headed leaving high school, I would have become a positive, happy individual... But then life happened, and gave me a reason to be so depressing.

 

However, I suppose it's good that I can point at my flaws now. That is certainly a step up from my high school years where I did not notice these flaws and thought I could do no wrong in terms of those aspects.

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To be honest, I used to struggle to come to terms with the fact that I have aspergers.. And recently I've had concerns about having anxiety as well. I'm probably going to see a doctor about it soon and get myself diagnosed.

 

I think that recently though, I have come to accept my disability a lot more and just adapt and approach life in my own way, at my own pace... And pretty much not give a shit about other peoples opinions about me.

 

Strange word though, "Normal" ...

 

We have a lot in common my friend. :)

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The biggest thing wold have to be my perspective on the world around me. When I was younger I used to be half amazed and half angry at everything going on. Now I usually just sit back, laugh and try to enjoy the ride as much as I can.

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To be honest, I used to struggle to come to terms with the fact that I have aspergers.. And recently I've had concerns about having anxiety as well. I'm probably going to see a doctor about it soon and get myself diagnosed.

 

I think that recently though, I have come to accept my disability a lot more and just adapt and approach life in my own way, at my own pace... And pretty much not give a shit about other peoples opinions about me.

 

Strange word though, "Normal" ...

 

We have a lot in common my friend. :)

My boyfriend has Asperger's too. I too have anxiety :P I've recently learned that my anxiety is probably related to my E.D.S., apparently we over-produce adrenaline :/  

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I'm a lot happier; that stuff about your younger years being the best of your life is bollocks, for me. Give me the responsibilities that help me grow, because I will waste my life if given complete freedom. I need the structure.

 

That and, yeah, confidence, a stronger sense of identity/my place in the world, way more experiences. Generally just more comfortable in this bizarre world. 

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On personal level it really seems my state of self awareness has increased; as well as my perception of my geographical, social, and mental environments. I'm still not a very talkative individual and I'm more of a thinker, but how I look at others around me has certainly changed.

 

Whether that is for better or for worse...we'll see.

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I've become more socially anxious, isolated, angry, bitter...Mostly I haven't improved much. I have in a few ways, I feel like I'm a much more accepting person now, I'm more aware of my flaws, and I actually have some friends online, which is great.

 

 Worst part is, despite all this I'm at possibly the happiest I've been in a long time, and that happiness was gained by locking myself away in a room for years and pretending the world doesn't exist. People say that kind of thing makes you miserable, and I'm miserable, but not as much as usual, really. I like it. I like my only connection to the outside world being some family and the internet, I've never been this close to happy before.

 

 It won't last though. I'll have to get a job and stuff eventually. And I'm not looking forward to it at all. I just want the world to leave me alone already, I'm tired of it.

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I've become more mature and more aware of my own image.

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When I was a teenager I thought I had everything all figured out and I was certain no one else would understand me and blah blah blah emo blah. Yeah, I was a moron at the time. I also thought using the Dutch equivalent of tlkng liek dis on msn was cool. I...was not well in those dark days. Nowadays I loathe intentionally misspelling words, for one thing, and I'm not nearly as nihilistic now as I was back then. If anything, I've gotten much softer.

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My view on life and reality. As a kid, I was very naive and trusting of people. The more I got older, the more I realized just how dumb I was.

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Meeting women of similar age. I swear like 90% of them are engaged or married (I know it's a lot less, but it seems like a lot more).

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Not a whole lot has changed honestly, other than me knowing a lot more than what I did when I was younger, of course. There are some other aspects about me that are of course different, but honestly, my personality is not a whole lot different from when I was a kid and I am a kid at heart as a result. :3 I guess one thing that has changed, for a negative, is my internal struggles. Different issues and my anxiety has gotten a hell of a lot worse over time. The positives outweigh the negatives though.

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Not much as changed, honestly. I still love cartoons, I still suck at reading, I still love drawing, I still love attention, I still love having my picture taken, I still prefer being around others. The only difference is that I don't do parkour nor play tennis or run anymore. The closest tennis court is too far away, no one else likes it, and the tennis balls went to the dogs. I can't do parkour because I'm too old to get away with it. I still run, but not as much. I don't have motivation since I have no one to run with me. I'm also taller, heavier, and more masculine looking than I was before. I'm also more violent, which isn't a good thing. I also got more masculine, taller, older, heavier, and other things that happen to everyone growing up. 

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Sadly, I'm not sure I have changed as much as I'd hoped since my high school days. I used to think I had overcome my flaws from back then, but now I realize some have just changed shape (being very opinionated), while others are still there... They just lay dormant at times (being dramatic, stirring up trouble). Me being depressing has probably only got worse, just, once again, it's changed shape. To be fair, things happened in my life that caused that this time around. I think the direction I was headed leaving high school, I would have become a positive, happy individual... But then life happened, and gave me a reason to be so depressing.

 

However, I suppose it's good that I can point at my flaws now. That is certainly a step up from my high school years where I did not notice these flaws and thought I could do no wrong in terms of those aspects.

How is being opinionated considered a flaw?

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Well, I used to be a lot more playful when I was young, and as years past my personality has really "developed" more, mostly between when I was 10 and 11, although at the same time, I've felt a lot more depressed and anxious lately. It kind of started when I was 12, but now I feel like it's starting to get the worst of me.

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As i've gotten older, I have become much less shy and insecure. I have become more resiliant and I find it easier to not let what others think about me bother me. That, and I have realized the kinds of people I should rid of in my life. I try my best to avoid "toxic" people as well as relationships.

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I've got more confident with sharing a presentation with a whole class.

My voice has been deepened

I've been developing all kinds of things since I hit adolescence.

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When I was younger I had a real aversion to giving and receiving hugs. Now that I'm older I give people a hug any chance I get.

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How is being opinionated considered a flaw?

 

You don't understand, I take being opinionated to an extreme. I become very passionate and dramatic about certain opinions I hold... Like the positive opinion I hold toward woodwind instruments. Lol. The problem is that the reverse is true for hate. I think I've grown up a little in the regard that I will not make as big of a scene. Back in my high school years I would make a scene about these things any time I could. Now I'm a bit more reserved... But I'm not completely silent (think of my opinion toward 80s music and electronic music).

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You don't understand, I take being opinionated to an extreme. I become very passionate and dramatic about certain opinions I hold... Like the positive opinion I hold toward woodwind instruments. Lol. The problem is that the reverse is true for hate. I think I've grown up a little in the regard that I will not make as big of a scene. Back in my high school years I would make a scene about these things any time I could. Now I'm a bit more reserved... But I'm not completely silent (think of my opinion toward 80s music and electronic music).

I don't really see the issue with that. It seems to me like the only people who would have a problem with that is other people and they don't even begin to matter when expressing your opinion except that they get to hear it. Sometimes they even ask for it! :lol:

 

I say being opinionated, regardless of whether people will agree with you or not, is one of the best things you can be. You have thoughts, you express them and people should love you for it. A lot of people hold back or even change their opinions just because they don't want people to get mad at them for them and that's horrible.

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We're all time travelers moving in one direction. As we hold onto the past we create tears in the present.

 

You don't understand, I take being opinionated to an extreme. I become very passionate and dramatic about certain opinions I hold... Like the positive opinion I hold toward woodwind instruments. Lol. The problem is that the reverse is true for hate. I think I've grown up a little in the regard that I will not make as big of a scene. Back in my high school years I would make a scene about these things any time I could. Now I'm a bit more reserved... But I'm not completely silent (think of my opinion toward 80s music and electronic music).

I've found that the more we see the less we can be sure of what we know. It's why children are so impressionable and teenagers are often so rebellious. As the world grows ever larger our understanding shrinks. Most people react in one of two ways.

The first is essentially apathy; they seclude their minds in one sphere or another, allowing themselves to become satisfied with repetition and even boredom so long as their views can remain stable and safe. Often just going with the flow and letting others decide for them.

The second is to act more aggressively and latch onto an idea, a perspective that gives them identity and a sense of meaning that can persist throughout all the trials and tribulations.

These are not the only recourse to take but I have never heard of anyone who hasn't engaged in either to some extent. It part of the human condition I suppose.

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