mega thread What is your sexuality ?

[Shiki 5,855]

Demisexual, apparently. I thought I was asexual for a long time, but that's just because I hadn't found the right person to bring my affection levels high enough for me to become interested in such stuff.

[Lucky Bolt 35,062]

I’m bisexual with a preference for guys. 

 

I’m always posting in here to keep up lol. 

[Thuja 3,659]

6 minutes ago, Bas said:

What is demisexual?

Does this mean you have found your special somepony?

Aren't you either non-binary or MtF?

From my understanding it's when you form romantic or sexual attraction to someone when you've formed a strong emotional bond with someone.  And no, it's not the same as "everybody else", most people form sexual or romantic attraction either right away or over a few dates.  For me personally to form a romantic attraction for someone it could take up to one and a half or three years, if not longer, for me to be really positive that I'd like to pursue some sort of relationship with someone and having either romantic or sexual attraction to them.  Which really makes me feel guilty when someone confesses an attraction for me because I'm just like, "Gee, thanks?  Sorry my dude, can you wait a few years for me to possibly reciprocate?" most people don't have the patience for that.  If you're implying that one has to be enby or MTF to be demisexual, no, it doesn't work that way.  You can be straight yet demi, gay yet demi, bi yet demi, etc.  One's gender identity doesn't matter when they identify as demi. 

[Will Guide 21,360]

I'm mostly gay for other guys. Still, if a female friend needs assistance, I'll be open to it.

[Rainbow Cloud 17,924]

Think I'm pretty much just straight. I'm supportive of other sexualities though.

[Shiki 5,855]

1 hour ago, Bas said:

What is demisexual?

Does this mean you have found your special somepony?

Aren't you either non-binary or MtF?

Me? I thought I was straight, maybe also homoromantic, meanwhile, I am not so sure whether I might be bisexual - or rather pansexual, because it doesn't matter to me after not making such a distinction anymore.Then again, I was never in a relationship in my life. If I am pan(bi) sexual, I still assume I am still roughly 90/95% straight.

Basically, I'm not attracted to anyone unless I have an emotional connection with them. Like, I can't just see Mr. (supposed) Hot Stud or Ms. Sexy Legs walk by and go "ooh la la." I just don't feel anything towards strangers.

But my PARTNER on the other hand

hoohoo

damn 

she's a hot ass babe MMF

Also, gender, sex, and the actual appearance of the person doesn't matter. I could be dating someone that everyone thinks is ugly but if I love them I will find them attractive. 

[Kyoshi Frost Wolf 41,328]

Me:

Thought I was bisexual before but then I realized I basically have absolutely no desire whatsoever to be with a female.

 

[Here No Longer 5,276]

I used to think I was pansexual but then I realized that...

Although I think I may be very much incidentally straight. I do mean very much, as in I might as well just say I'm gay anyways.

[A Small Bear 60]

I consider myself straight. Mostly straight, anyway. I've crushed on and even dated a few girls. I'm just not typically attracted to them.

[Thuja 3,659]

3 hours ago, Bas said:

Sounds like the soul mates thing.

I wouldn't say soulmates, demi relationships can fall apart just as simply as "regular" relationships can.  It just takes longer for someone to form romantic or sexual attraction for others.

[Cherry Pop 15]

I'm Ace. At least, that's what people call it when they don't feel comfortable using the other word. In other words, not physically attracted to anyone.

Although... I debate whether it's really an orientation, or a lack of one.

[Shiki 5,855]

3 hours ago, Bas said:

Sounds like the soul mates thing.

It is really how much you make out of it, I guess. And maybe what you and others expect from you. It is not that I am not thinking about this anymore at all, but it definitively got less when I stopped making a fuss about it. And maybe I started to care less about my sexuality, or I considered it to be less defining to me.

Pics please.

* MtF?

Considering you pretty much pleased praised the lengthened back of your partner - Did you always feel about that special piece that way or was it coming over time?

 

Are you female? Your profile lists you as other (non-binary?).

No pics. uwu I'm keeping her to myself.

I actually wasn't attracted to her for a while, it took maybe about 5 months for me to genuinely start getting uhhhhhh excited over things. It's always scary during that period where I'm not attracted, because it makes me scared whether I actually like the person or not, or if I'll ever be attracted to them.

I'm born male and have been on hormones for almost a year and a half, but I'll never look like a woman so I refuse to call myself MtF and calling myself a man just hurts so I just leave it as other.

[Fasu 551]

Been straight for whole life but have considered lately that i might be asexual. But maybe i haven't just found yet that "special somepony".

[Shiki 5,855]

1 hour ago, Bas said:

Does sound you are too harsh to yourself, I would just consider you female I guess; or if you want to highlight you are in transition you could call yourself trans mtf/female.

There's nothing female or feminine about me though so I feel like it's lying if I call myself one.

[Mini 451]

6 minutes ago, Shiki said:

There's nothing female or feminine about me though so I feel like it's lying if I call myself one.

idk u seem pretty feminine to me

 

[Shiki 5,855]

3 minutes ago, mini said:

idk u seem pretty feminine to me

 

Not physically like damn im like an nfl linebacker

[Cwanky 17,567]

It's been a recent revelation of sorts for me, but increasingly I think I am aromantic. To what degree, I don't know yet, but I still do indulge in the degenerate habit of watching porn and I know I'm straight since I still feel physical attraction to others of the opposite sex. So I'm fairly certain I am not asexual. Despite all that I never once had a girlfriend in my life, nor do I have desire for one, let alone marriage. I have openly told several of my relatives that I don't care for marriage, but I only go to weddings as a matter of family obligation and to show support.

Not to offend anyone, but I really don't care for intimacy, public or otherwise. I can appreciate sincere love among couples, but many of the public displays of romance or those fictionally portrayed seem overly sappy and clingy to me. But that may just be me speaking as  an aromantic. I will say watching Bojack Horseman and learning about Todd Chavez helped me understand these issues much better. I probably wouldn't even be aware of aromanticism, let alone asexuality. 

It may not seem a big deal to some but for someone who has that pressure to marry, get a job and start a family, I can't help but fixate on my revelation.

[Kazilii 18]

Ace, and glad to see I'm nowhere close to the only one around here.

[Thuja 3,659]

On ‎7‎/‎18‎/‎2019 at 2:07 PM, Shiki said:

Not physically like damn im like an nfl linebacker

Don't be so harsh with yourself, there're cis women out there who could probably throw NFL linebackers if they wanted to.  There're also butch women out there who regularly get thrown out of the women's restroom because they're mistaken as men.  What I'm trying to say is, is that cis women have it rough trying to fulfill the status quo of what a "feminine women" looks like.  It's hard enough putting trans-feminine folks in with them too since they're at more of a disadvantage in some regards.  I really think trying to fit this mold for how to be feminine or masculine can become pretty toxic for trans folks.  I'm not MTF but I am FTM so I can kinda understand the toxicity that can creep into the trans community sometimes.  My advice would be to stop caring about "passing", define who you are as a person instead of letting peer pressure get the worst of you.  Passing isn't that big of a deal but I understand the safety behind it, especially if you're in a place that's more conservative and we all don't have the privilege to pack up and move when something becomes toxic for us.

[Shiki 5,855]

1 minute ago, Thuja said:

Don't be so harsh with yourself, there're cis women out there who could probably throw NFL linebackers if they wanted to.  There're also butch women out there who regularly get thrown out of the women's restroom because they're mistaken as men.  What I'm trying to say is, is that cis women have it rough trying to fulfill the status quo of what a "feminine women" looks like.  It's hard enough putting trans-feminine folks in with them too since they're at more of a disadvantage in some regards.  I really think trying to fit this mold for how to be feminine or masculine can become pretty toxic for trans folks.  I'm not MTF but I am FTM so I can kinda understand the toxicity that can creep into the trans community sometimes.  My advice would be to stop caring about "passing", define who you are as a person instead of letting peer pressure get the worst of you.  Passing isn't that big of a deal but I understand the safety behind it, especially if you're in a place that's more conservative and we all don't have the privilege to pack up and move when something becomes toxic for us.

You can't just ignore all the social pressure of passing. People DO react, whether anyone likes it or not. I don't know how I'm just supposed to ignore getting thrown out of the bathroom/complained about and the constant creepy stares if I were to go out trying to buy or even just wear women's clothes. Like sorry but I can't just be myself without all the backlash that inevitably makes me feel awful. Though forcing myself to not be myself is also painful. Damn, this sucks

[Magic Note 2,748]

The problem is that society is very judgmental towards transgender people and people who are experiencing/have experienced gender dysphoria.

[Here No Longer 5,276]

6 minutes ago, Magic Note said:

The problem is that society is very judgmental towards transgender people and people who are experiencing/have experienced gender dysphoria.

Unfortunately, yes we do suffer that problem.  Even if it weren't there, even the perception that society might be that way is still very harmful.

[BlueFeathers 0]

well i am bisexual.. :3

[Lucky Bolt 35,062]

4 hours ago, BlueFeathers said:

well i am bisexual.. :3

Me too! Nice to meet you 

[Angle Alastor 3,805]

Ii think it’s been a while since I posted on here can’t remember lol but for me , totally gay lol :3