What are your pet hates about being your age?

[Reecejackox 349]

I would say feeling old

[ExplosionMare 18,007]

People caring more about my next age than my current age, therefore not letting me enjoy my current age as much

[Splashee 28,537]

Not being taken seriously, I think.....

[Clawdeen 12,110]

Nothing really tbh.

 

[Gun Metal Zebra 1,818]

Being in my mid-30s, I have noticed that it is difficult to find people in my age group at furry fandom meetups (a lot of them are 18-22). My introversion and odd nature probably put me in an odd spot, as many people my age have probably gotten busy with things like raising families, and therefore don’t have time for events like these. The slower metabolism can also be irritating, as while I am not really gaining any weight, I am not really losing it either (I have a small “gut” that I would like to lose).

[J.J 918]

I think only the unrealistic expectations of "some people" WAYYY overly invested in my life, I WISH I could stay in my 20s forever, I don't want to turn 30, that just sounds gross, no offense to my senior bronies..lol

Anyways back to the topic, I think there is some weird societal pressure on younger people to try to be socially engaging, while also being able to maintain the appropriate job(preferably a job that I am not BLATANTLY DISCRIMINATED AGAINST.) I think some 20 year olds "think" they have to have it all "figured out" bc they are "clearly an adult now," and they are HYPER OBSESSING over what their peers are doing with their lives, and they create this imaginary competition not just with others but with themselves, and they put themselves in this big desperate rush to look like they have it all figured out and put together, but they build a life so fast they never stop to think about whether it was the right life for them or not, a lot of these ppl get divorced, kids end up with multiple parents not just 2, a book of regrets and a bunch of time wasted on someone that never genuinely respected you in the first place, they just "didn't want to be alone". I'm 28, I have A LOT of time to figure out what I'm meant to do with my human existence, and plenty of time to make sure I allow the right ppl into my life.

All these people, breaking up bc it was rushed and "they were young", all this time wasted on friendships that weren't real, ppl growing older and losing respect for you bc they can see what "adulthood" has done to you.

Time is a factor, even as a non factor, you may never get to see any of the faces around you ever again, so they reverse this logic and believe that means they must hurry, before it's to late, or they will "forever be alone" (which isn't half as bad as getting with someone that degrades and or disrespects you) but patience is how you fish, they say it's a "big sea" well then why are you fishing in a pond in your backyard? I mean "settling" is okay, a lot of older folks who have played and been played do this that just want a peaceful life with a companion, but being a desperate simp, I mean no dude, THERE IS LITERALLY a WHOLE WORLD of ppl you have never met, and will probably never meet, and bc you think so little of yourself inherently, you are "taking what you think you can get." Well that's good for you, but some of us want to really understand what it means to love someone and to have universal experiences with our loved ones that aren't completely redundant and horrendously pedestrian. It's okay to be "boring lovers" to, lol Maud and Mudbriar are great, but it's like they still genuinely excite each other based off of their interests and personalities. I don't want to put on an act to gain approval or to hear someone tell a bold faced LIE and say they love me. You do not, you can not, you do not know what that means, you do not deserve to know what that means, and I certainly won't be the one to teach you. I just wanna be left alone to make mistakes, have life experiences, and hopefully stumble upon the ppl that BELONG in my life, and I feel like I just have to have a bigger way to reach these individuals, bc they are out there not knowing that we are destined for greatness together.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[outlaw_f0x 149]

no one takes me seriously. i have a short fuse sometimes, and when i’m upset people say it’s just because i’m a teen. it’s genuinely upsetting and shows that adults don’t care 

Edited August 1, 2022 by brony_bonk

[Cherrychip 111]

24 minutes ago, brony_bonk said:

no one takes me seriously. i have a short fuse sometimes, and when i’m upset people say it’s just because i’m a teen. it’s genuinely upsetting and shows that adults don’t care 

From an adult with a short fuse: I totally understand where you're coming from. It seems like the smallest things can make me explode sometimes, even when it's like... Not serious at all? I started punching my pillows once because I spilled some mozzarella cheese... 

Spoiler

Those poor pillows... x3

Don't let people undermine your feelings. They're yours, and yours alone to feel! Anger is just as natural as sadness or happiness.

 

And to reply to the topic: too young to go to a casino or do any other activities, too old to go to build a bear without getting The Look™️

[ExplosionMare 18,007]

On 2022-08-01 at 4:15 PM, brony_bonk said:

no one takes me seriously. i have a short fuse sometimes, and when i’m upset people say it’s just because i’m a teen. it’s genuinely upsetting and shows that adults don’t care 

That's what happened to me when I was teen. Actually, it still happens sometimes even now   

[Dreambiscuit 8,024]

Physically falling apart bit by bit. Memory loss, arthritis, then a little surgery to fix this and that, and then more surgery. Eyesight failing, hearing loss. Ehh, you get the idea…

[Envy 5,999]

Health issues, like arthritis. I'm not what I used to be, even if I'm a lot better than a few years ago thanks to proper medication. Recently, I went to the mountains with a friend and her family and I could only do the small hike while they all got to go do the bigger ones. Even on the small hike, I was out of it. Part of that was altitude and lack of stamina from not having been active for years, though.

Also, I haven't talked much about this, but it has been on my mind more lately. Me, at this age not having ever had a child. My brain's all like "hey, you should get pregnant! Hey, why haven't you got pregnant yet?! What is going on?!". Ugh. I've always been see sawing between wanting to have children and not, but I guess the maternal instincts are taking over as the clock starts ticking with my age. I also feel bad for not giving my parents grandchildren. They tell me not to worry about it, but I do.

[They call me Loyalty 1,941]

I hate being 32 and having people think I am a young adolescent. Not only because of my appearance. But because I have not changed at all. And that is worrisome. I should have changed. To better myself. But... I have not. It is almost as if I didn't care. I have abandoned myself. And I tried to offer some ideas to repair this broken family group and give it a purpose in life. Something that could help society, perhaps. But they don't give a damn. They just shrugged. Damn, they make me feel like an idiot, or worse. They make me believe I am a bad person as well.

So, maybe I don't care anymore because of this massive disappointment in my chest. Because whenever I get in touch with my heart, it hurts a lot. So, yeah. This is the source of my self-abandonment and hatred. And it bothers me to be so apathetic. Because I want to care. But this life has destroyed that which was most important to me. I mean, it was already broken since I got here. But without a family. I have no strength. I have no purpose, either. I have nothing. And it is not a problem with my current age. I've been feeling like this my whole life. I remember being like five and staring into the dark ceiling of my room, knowing this was over already. That this life was a lost cause. It feels like someone aimed a shotgun close to my chest and they pulled the trigger. I am sicked and tired of looking at this wreck.

Edited August 14, 2022 by They call me Loyalty

[FlitterFlutter 1,568]

Probably the worst thing about being my age (25) at a sales job is people assuming I don't know anything. Yes it is possible I know the inventory of the store I worked at three years

[Winter Storm 206]

I just feel very unaccomplished for my age when I compare myself to other people.

[EpicEnergy 22,077]

People expecting me to have my life together at this point, like a family, good college experience, nice career, like I know what I'm doing in life, and so forth. Not necessarily my age but rather the age group I'm in (I'm in the 20's).

[Arylett Charnoa 4,919]

Watching people ten years younger actually bring able to accomplish something and feeling obsolete, like society feels I belong in the trash because my issues never quite allowed me to be normal. 

I have very little in common with other 30 year olds - they have jobs and children, and I almost feel like the life has been sucked out of them because they're more focused on the mundane grind. Being an adult stereotypically accepted by society really looks like you just give up on fun, and gripe about your job and how much you hate it. A sad reality for many beyond their control. 

Whereas I was left behind still loving my childhood passions like Pokémon and Final Fantasy. I try to pursue things that make me happy and self-improvement, because I have the luxury of having a partner who bears the burden of being an adult. Everyone else is too busy to cultivate a proper friendships. 

At the same time though, I do not understand the generation after me, with all this Tik-Tok, steaming, and fast-paced internet world. So even though I feel [and even physically resemble - people mistake me for being underage] like the same person I was as a teenager, the world has moved on without me. I don't fit in anywhere and can't relate to anyone. 

[BritishBrony2012 719]

People expect to act my age, no one perfect. I don't act like baby but I got angry. At work, my boss, think I'm on top of the job expect from under 20 to be far behind. A dentist was shock when I was 24 (at the time) cos my teeth was bad and don't look after them and epxect that from 15/16 (which annoyed me, would of just leave and get angry at them and pefer get tooth ache then b**** from dentist). When you in middle age people expect to act your age. I like toys and buy them (Don't play them) even owned Chatter Telephone (Old & new) and Rock a stack. I like some cartoons & Superheroes. Some things that meant to be for kids seem to be enjoyed by adults & pathetic people have many problem about it. 

 

Also people don't expect me to use Tik Tok and Instragam, even old people use them. 

Younger people specially kids get special treatment and presents.

I'm 37, still living with a parent, most leave at 17 or 18. I meant to have a house of my own, a wife, kids? 

 

 

[DubWolf 16,615]

Nothing. I just wish I was 23-24 at this stage of my training/school and not 28.