Dealing with Failure

[rcollinz13 428]

We have all had to deal with failure at some point in our lives. Whether it's failing a test, not making the team, or just losing a game with your friends failure is a part of life.

 

My question is how do you react and deal with failure. I have major test anxiety and I often find myself coming up short on my tests in school even if I know the material inside and out. Although, I don't handle it the best way sometimes. Sometimes I just mope around all day or remain in a state of hopelessness all day long. I do get over it though, and I feel like that is more important.

 

Now I want to hear from you. How do you deal with failure? Do you have do deal with it often, and do you think you handle it accordingly? As always keep it respectful. Cheers.

[CloudsdaleCompanion 342]

If I fail at anything I will feel a bit down at first but take it rather easily afterwards. For example, if I lose a game I can still laugh in the end because I had fun playing with my team. I don't care if I loose.

 

If I fail a test, OK that's a bit worse but I will feel happy again the next day because there are new challenges for me to overcome. I can't change what has already happened. I can only try to make thing better which in this case would be studying harder.

Edited November 20, 2012 by CloudsdaleCompanion

[MorningFlash 214]

I have a lot of test anxiety as well, even if I revise the content inside and out, It's like my memory just gets wiped as soon as I get the paper given to me, I forget everything.

[Bronium 512]

I just tend to forget it. I mean, it's not like it doesn't affect me. It does, but I cope by just striving harder in whatever comes after. It usually is quite good for me to fail before something important. I just get this immense inspiration to do something, and it's quite good. Failure's pretty good for me actually. Not that I want to fail of course.

[Sks_Burns 730]

failure ignites my determination. i typically dont view failure as an option, so if it comes to that, then i just dust myself off and try again.

Edited November 20, 2012 by sks_burns

[Shiki 5,855]

I have a major problem with failing. To be honest, I don't know if I hate failure and avoid it, or love it and crave it. I have this weird thing with beating myself up, so I set myself up for failure a lot of the time. Either that, or I don't do anything at all so I don't have to deal with failure at all. I guess you could say I've trained myself to be used to failure, that way it isn't as upsetting, but saying that still seems a bit inaccurate.

[Fridge 382]

In the event of failure (or percieved failure) I get angry. The anger is directed at myself and is such an unpleasent emotion that it acts as reeforcement to not allow that to happen again. Its not a perfect system but it works for me as I find it allows me to 'reprogramme' my brain a bit. Its not as simplistic as that in reality I know but thats the best way I can describe it.

[Commander Urdnot 2,680]

If I fail at something, I try not to sweat it. There's no use getting mad or sad about something that you can't change. I just get up and try again.

[CloudFyre 848]

Failure usually scares me into pouring lots and extra time and energy out so that when I have to do the task again, (such as a Calculus test), I'll be well prepared for it.

 

If I fail at something, I try not to sweat it. There's no use getting mad or sad about something that you can't change. I just get up and try again.

 

This is also important to remember. What's done is done. Should you go crazy over it? No. On the other hand, should you ignore it completely? Of course not. It has to be a balance of the two.

[MustangRacing3 12]

When it comes to tests, most of the time I'm kind of disappointed when I don't do as well as I should. Most of the time, when I know I'm not going to do well, I don't worry too much which in most cases turns out that I do better than I expected. But then there are other times where after I find out I didn't do very well, I worry and feel really bad.

 

In high school, I never had to worry much about failing. But in college, it's kind of a big deal because tests makes up for so much of the grade.

[Retro*Derpy 3,191]

Failure just means you have more to learn(Which isn't a bad thing), it doesn't mean you are exactly dumb, but means you still have to expand your knowledge on a subject. But if you are failing in something like a sport, there is nothing you can do but practice more. That is how I see/deal with it.

Edited November 21, 2012 by Retro_Derpy

[khaine21x3 789]

You need to think yourself to be superior than other less evolves apes and try to be better than everyone at everything so that you might rule over the inferiors one day.

[Morager 149]

I try to accept it and learn from what i did wrong so that i wont do it again. Its helps me become stronger, smarter and wiser. Failure isnt always bad it can help you by narrowing down the possiblities to the right path which will be a win in the end.

[AegisReflector 886]

I always try, try again. Failure is not an option for me and I am always anal about completing something once I start it. If I do poorly on a test, I will make corrections. If I do badly on a cross country race, I will always train harder the next day.

[Celtore 2,770]

When I fail at something, I'm first hit with the overwhelming feeling of disappoint. This feeling is very brief as being disappointed won't fix the problem. The next few minutes after the disappointment will be filled by me figuring out what went wrong and how to fix it.

 

Then, cue the epic training/studying montage and my frustration and disappointment is focused into improving myself until I can do whatever it is I failed at in my sleep. This way, I'm ready for next time.

[butter scotch 79]

Failure...

Hmmm my dictionary needs updating!

It's impossible to not fail unless it's something you've done countless times or a programmed robot or something...

[Negative 67]

Failure. I tell myself it isn't me.

Next time I will get any doubt out of my head and love myself, that way the chances of me failing again are low.

[Kapi 215]

Even if I fail, I still know I did my best.. but sometimes, anger and disappointment get the better of me, and I lash out, like if I lose in a video game, I'll throw the controller because I'm mad. If I lose a race, I tend to be a good sport, I did my best. The next time, I'll try harder!

 

Never throw Genesis/MegaDrive controllers though, they hurt, especially when they bounce off the entertainment center and smack you in the forehead... ow...

[DoctorWhovian1902 596]

If I fail at something, I'll be sad about it for a while, but I'll eventually come to terms with it, and be determined to improve myself and do better next time.

[Zygen 6,066]

Well when it comes to test, I don't really fear tests at all. I dunno why exactly, I just don't really find them ultra intimidating most of the time.

However when it comes to me dealing with failure? I'll have to admit I'm terrible at dealing with failure. I consider myself to be somewhat of a perfectionist.(I think i get it from my mom, but shes certainly more of a perfectionist then me). Being a perfectionist I want to do things perfectly, however i'm really only perfectionist on things that I have some kinda desire to do.

Still when I fail I get depressed usually. I mean sometimes just a little sometimes a bit more, it all depends.

I don't even have to directly fail actually, if I didn't do good enough to meet the standards I wanted to meet, then that can even make me depressed.

 

Long story short, I'm pretty hard on myself.

[Dusty Soul 2,611]

Failure doesn't matter to me. As long as I can say I gave it my best shot. I'm pretty chill when I fail, because it's not the end of the world.

[Twilight Circuits 603]

Failure doesn't matter to me. As long as I can say I gave it my best shot. I'm pretty chill when I fail, because it's not the end of the world.

 

I'll add that true failure is not being able to get around any obstacle to the path that you chose. If the way you imagine it is blocked on your journey to reach you goal, it just means that there might be a better way to reach it. IF you are willing to ponder the choices, instead of letting negative emotions get the better of you.

[Colt 555]

How to deal with failure... ok first of all don’t preset your self to fail. If you give it all out and don’t reach what your goal is most likely you get close to it, so don’t try to fool yourself by believing you are doing stuff you are not.

 

I "lost" 4 years of my life when I failed on some stuff, picking my things together and building what I broke has been hard and in a way I may never bring things back to what they were but I work to make’em better and assume the responsibility that those errors were mine and just mine,

 

Also learn how awesome you are, as a guy / girl. There is this stuff called esteem it works wonders when the world seems to turn its back on you. And its just natural, failure is part of our lives, makes us stronger smarter and tougher by this I don’t try to say you are going to fail either way but the only real failure you can have is not to stand up after you have fall.

 

Each thing I have to rebuild is a consequence of my past decisions, I deal with eat and eat that dirt to improve and not to fail again, and I think that is one of the best ways to deal with our mistakes, take them, learn from them and try to not repeat them.