How would you react to a friend's betrayal?

[Invincible 2,091]

Something which is bothering me lately, but first a little context:

 

I won't go into too many details because this is a private matter, so suffice to say that i uncovered a conspiracy made against me under my nose by someone who i considered among my closest friends. He would not admit it even if i presented him with evidence, and he attempted to cover his tracks. I don't want to risk breaking the ties that we had since childhood, but at the same time i'm very disappointed by his actions so much that i feel sick. It's a serious breach of my trust in my friend, which is why this is a big deal to me.

 

How would you deal with a breach of loyalty from those you consider closest to you? Do you sweep this under the rug, or do you confront them?

[Lord Bradley 1,319]

If i put a lot of trust into a close friend and then seeing him break that, i would certainly get a mix of anger and sadness. Anyhow, i would probably confront him/her and give them a serious talk, since "Sweeping it under the rug" doesnt really do much if he/she is going to keep breaking promises and the likes.

[xX360noScoperKingXx 35]

I will a 1v1 match against him because he betrayed me and he has to pay for his misdeeds.

[Andaasonsan 3,205]

Michael Corleone style!

 

 

Or go for some lameo crap like confronting him instead of letting this just fester.

 

Either way.

[DubWolf 17,263]

I guess it depends. If it was someone I felt really attached to that betrayed me, I'd be pretty sad . Like breaking up. Otherwise I'd be a bit angry then .

Edited October 2, 2014 by SparkWolf

[Castle Bleck 19,361]

If he/she was remorseful, then I'd forgive him/her, but if he/she wasn't, then:

 

[Guest]

I guess I would feel hurt but I would forgive them even if they don't ask for my forgiveness.

[GammaDove 428]

I would forgive them, but I wouldn't trust them.

[Soul Flare 403]

I'd lose all trust and affection I might have had for them, not ignore or insult them, but avoid talking to them about anything personal. I won't consider them anymore than an acquantance rather than a friend, which will probably never be again

[iceestarz 5,764]

Well my best friend (boyfriend at the time, he came out of the closet like earlier this year though so...) it was like 3 years ago, It was the ending of my freshman year. He was in 8th grade, so we went to different schools. Anywho, this one girl was talking mad shit about me, and he never once defended me. Never once. He defended this girl(his ex) over me. I was friends with him WAAAAY LONGER. I felt betrayed, so we got in a huge fight and stopped being friends for a few months until we finally just swept the whole thing under a rug. Now we're super super best friends. I've gone to festivals with him and we've had sleepovers.

 

Maybe you just need to have some time apart from your friendship. If you two are true friends you'll find your way back to one another.

Edited October 2, 2014 by Cupcakes14

[Darker 1,351]

We would start singing this.

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w55FdA3nocM

[Hashi 323]

Personally, if they still wanted to be friends, I would be friends, but they wouldn't be a close friend anymore until they have built back up the trust that they destroyed (personally, for me, a long time)

[SilverStarApple 849]

Find him/her.

Demand answers.

Extract answers.

 

The answers had better be good.

[ShadowPirateX 600]

I know it would take a lot of time before I trusted that friend again. That's for sure.

[NotoriousSMALL 1,984]

surprised, hurt, then furious.

[A goat 323]

We would start singing this.

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w55FdA3nocM

I too would sing this song.

Edited October 3, 2014 by A goat

[SparklingSquirrels 21,341]

I'd be really sad. But I guess that sort of thing happens... I'd probably try to spend more time with my other friends.

[boiteporte 591]

I would just forget about it but I would not confront him because it can only worsen a situation.

I am quite an emotionless person, lol. So, I would be annoyed but it would not go much further than that.

 

Of course, what I just said is highly hypothetical since I do not actually have any friends, lol.

[Treble Bolt 1,122]

My husband is my best friend....I think it'd be the end of the world if he betrayed me. I trust him more than anyone on earth!

[Snow Frostflame 3,568]

I have been betrayed quite a bit it hurts a lot for me and if you were to betray me I would never speak to you again or forgive you

 

a lot of people in real life and ex members of the Ponygames guild have betrayed me now they beg for my forgiveness but they are crying in the rain

 

which is why only the most loyal people are my friends

[11th Doctor Whooves 794]

Depends on what the betrayal is.   I had a former friend do something incredibly heinous, and I cut him off like a diseased limb, lol.  I can forgive most things, but some things just can't be forgiven.

[Celli 4,338]

I would be extremely upset, because I'm pretty close to him.

[Plageius 263]

Happened to me twice already, so wouldn't be surprised.

[Dewdlz 938]

I would confront them and just accept that it's happened before. That's when and if I have a friend, since I have none, I have no issues with it.

[Karma Lightwing 245]

Depends on what the betrayal is.   I had a former friend do something incredibly heinous, and I cut him off like a diseased limb, lol.  I can forgive most things, but some things just can't be forgiven.

 

I was thinking the exact same thing when I came to this post. I too have had "friends" who only brought pain and suffering to my life, I have now been cutting down so much on my friends that I fear I have none left. the few I have arent exactly perfect either and have days where they just act like pure toxic against me. But as you sayd there are different types of betrayal, some types are more forgiving than others.