Are you happy with your biological sex?

[Sapphire Lightning 784]

I can't answer your poll because there is no option for "I was born in a male body, but always knew that was wrong and as the years grew on, it hurt me more, so I ponied up and with a lot of trepidation at first. A lot of fright. A lot of looking in to myself. A lot of jumping through hoops because this society thinks gender and birth sex are the same thing. A lot of work. A lot of fighting stereotyps and bigots. And a lot of money handed over to a specialist surgeon in Montreal; I am finally able to be myself and the crushing weight has been lifted. I was finally born".

 

Can you add that poll option so I can vote?

 

Also, for any ponies here who have had serious feelings about possibly being transgendered, shoot me a PM if you want. I would be happy to answer any questions you may have about my personal experience with transition. I wear my soul on my sleeve (literally now!). Or just hit me up to chat with a kindred spirit.

[RheanbowDash 188]

I can't answer your poll because there is no option for "I was born in a male body, but always knew that was wrong and as the years grew on, it hurt me more, so I ponied up and with a lot of trepidation at first. A lot of fright. A lot of looking in to myself. A lot of jumping through hoops because this society thinks gender and birth sex are the same thing. A lot of work. A lot of fighting stereotyps and bigots. And a lot of money handed over to a specialist surgeon in Montreal; I am finally able to be myself and the crushing weight has been lifted. I was finally born".

 

Can you add that poll option so I can vote?

 

Also, for any ponies here who have had serious feelings about possibly being transgendered, shoot me a PM if you want. I would be happy to answer any questions you may have about my personal experience with transition. I wear my soul on my sleeve (literally now!). Or just hit me up to chat with a kindred spirit.

My husband is ftm transgender! So i quite a bit about the trans community! Several of my friends in real life are also trans... wow i guess i love trans people!

[DubWolf 17,225]

Yup, I'm happy with my sex .

[Admiral Regulus 2,769]

I'm a male, but I consider the sort of mental/spiritual part of myself to be completely, entirely androgynous. In my opinion sex is purely biological, and gender is whatever you make of it. I don't understand the whole concept of "being born the wrong sex." It just doesn't compute to me.

 

I've never felt like I should have been born a girl or a boy. I just am. As it so happens I am biologically male, so... ehh, whatever.

 

So, in a way, I'm content with being male. That said, if I had been born female, I really wouldn't care. I'd still be the same person; I'd just have a different physical body. It's no different from asking, "are you happy with your eye color?"  No matter what my eye color is, it won't "change" me, y'know?

 

I guess part of this perspective is the result of the fact that I'm neither a manly man nor a girly girl. I'm not the type of guy who plays football, goes to the gym every morning, and goes to the bar to pick up chicks every night. On the other hand, I couldn't give two monkeybutts about beauty products, dresses, or what kind of fabric would match the couch. Wrestling bores me. Shopping does too.

 

In short, I'm neither very masculine nor very feminine. So, by that logic, a fem-me would be nearly an identical copy to me.

Edited February 28, 2015 by Admiral Regulus

[Lunatic Cake 1,618]

I would love to be both really. Not being able to be of both genders makes me feel incomplete on a physical level.

[MechanicalDoom 300]

I kinda hate being a guy sometimes because at school I feel like I belong a lot better with the girls but they exclude me sometimes because I'm a guy..

Edited February 28, 2015 by MechanicalDoom

[Ruddboy Olaf 10,628]

Yes,I'm quite happy being a guy,and I wouldn't have it any other way.

 

(This thread should be renamed "Are you happy with your gender.")

Edited February 28, 2015 by Sir Godot

[Sapphire Lightning 784]

 

(This thread should be renamed "Are you happy with your gender.")

Gender is one's identity, sex is their physical body. I think the OP meant "are you happy with the physical sex of your body" ie the old "do you feel like a girl/woman but have a male body" and vice versa. At least that is how I took the meaning of the OP.

[Spikey-Wikey 378]

I like being a male, but if I were to get reimcarnated, I'd see what it's like as a female.

[DATA EXPUNGED 324]

I dont see why I wouldn't be happy about being a Male. 

[1Bit 1,531]

Never been fully comfortable being male, always felt more feminine  I'd be much more content female than anything else 

[Frostgage 7,975]

Certain parts of my personality are about as feminine as a guy can get. That said though, I'm very comfortable and happy to be male.

Edited March 1, 2015 by Frostgage

[Justin_Case001 4,881]

Male, but kinda wish I had been born female.  It's different from actually being trans.  I have the correct brain for my parts.  I wasn't born "wrong", but rather, I just think being female would have suited my personality better, and for some reason I think my life would have turned out better.  I often catch myself feeling envious of women, wishing I was one.

 

It's like...*sigh*...it's like...I know this is really shallow and selfish and stupid, but I've always wanted to be...well...beautiful.  I mean, when my self esteem isn't garbage, I usually feel beautiful, but I feel like, as a guy, I can never be beautiful, because everyone knows that women are the attractive ones, and males are just lumpy pieces of meat.  Or rather, that's how society makes me feel.  I'm sick of the jokes in media that men are undesirable, unattractive, and women don't really want to be with them.  It's like, men want women, but women don't want men, they can take em or leave em, and men have to "win them over", or "woo" them with persistence and grand gestures or something.

 

Ugh...it's kind of hard for me to express these thoughts coherently.  Here: this is what I'm trying to say, right here.

That's what I'm f*ckin sick to death of.  This mindest seems to be embedded in my/our culture.  I know this is just a sitcom, not to be taken seriously, but there's some truth to every joke, or it wouldn't be funny.  If you reversed this gag, nobody would get it, and it wouldn't be funny.  I feel like this is how it often is in our culture.

 

I hate how weddings are largely meant for the bride.  Traditionally, she's the one that marches to music, all eyes on her and her gorgeous dress, and the man is specifically crafted to blend into the background.  He looks nice, but he's camoflauged.  The bride stands out.  It's her special day.  I know that many, many couples don't feel this way, and have non-traditional ceremonies, but I often feel like this is the norm.  Many people will say, "Of course the wedding's for her.  She's the bride."  The stupid song is called "Here Comes the Bride".  There's no song for the groom.

 

I hate that men are always expected to do the asking out, the proposing, etc.  Men give their fiancees engagement rings.  Men buys their girlfriends and wives crap for Valentine's.  Well, I guess girlfriends mostly.  By the time people are married, then tend to go, "Why should I have to do all that work, buying Valentine's presents?  I got her to marry me.  Work's over."  It's so f*cked up.  But that's a whole different can of worms.  The point is, why can't a woman buy some candy for her man on Valentine's?  Not that I care about an arbitrary, contrived holiday anyway.  Why can't women ask men for a date?  I know, I know, it's because women are wonderful and men are scary rapists.  That's a can of worms within a can of worms.  Actually, it's a zip-bomb can of worms.  No wonder Game of Thrones says "All Men Must Die".

 

I'm really rambling, here.  Sorry.  I got started and couldn't stop.

 

If I were an animal, I'd be set.  Males are the ones with the brilliant plumage, the gorgeous colors, the flowing manes, the antlers.  But I feel like in my world, it's harder for men to be attractive.  They're just expected to wear grungy jeans and t-shirts.  I want to wear f*ckin dresses.  And I do.  I design my own, tailored for me.  And I don't give a crap what anyone thinks.  I just wish it was easier.

 

I know that we have Times Sexiest Man Alive and stuff like that, but for the most part, it feels very one-sided.  It feels like the Seinfeld thing.

 

There's a few things that sometimes cheer me up.  Like this:

Thank you.  A man can be described as beautiful.  Even though this is pretty old now, it still feels rare and refreshing.

 

Again, I'm sorry for being shallow and stupid.  It shouldn't matter to me, but I'd be lying if I said it didn't.  I just want my appearance to reflect how I feel inside.  I know, words spoken countless times by all people from all walks of life, across the ages, from the dawn of humankind until our last breath, echoing in eternity.

[Aurelleah 894]

I sometimes feel Like I'd rather be female because of:

The amazing elegance and beauty women who know, and take care of, themselves

I hate hanging out with guys. bleh.

Women smell nice

 

But then I realize that If I were a girl, I'd feel the same way about being a guy. And then I realize that its not that I wana be a girl, I just like girls, and being with them and hanging out with them.

[Steel Accord 6,660]

Absolutely. I'm completely happy with my self-image. Yeah, I could stand to work out a bit more, but overall I'm content with my shape.

[Kyoshi Frost Wolf 41,302]

I honestly feel more feminine than anything and I personally think feminine males are adorable so..I guess it is half and half. I like being male, but I am more of a somewhat girly male and I like that too.

 

Gender itself does not matter when it comes to self perception though, it is how we feel about ourselves that matters, in my opinion at least. If one is feminine or masculine and it happy with that, that's what is important, regardless of 'gender'.

[Lisa 5,553]

I'm fairly happy being female, but considering I'm as tomboy as it gets, I sometimes think I should be male.

[Biff 37]

I know that we have Times Sexiest Man Alive and stuff like that, but for the most part, it feels very one-sided.  It feels like the Seinfeld thing.

 

Again, I'm sorry for being shallow and stupid.  It shouldn't matter to me, but I'd be lying if I said it didn't.  I just want my appearance to reflect how I feel inside.  I know, words spoken countless times by all people from all walks of life, across the ages, from the dawn of humankind until our last breath, echoing in eternity.

 

No, you're totally right. I've often thought this myself and it's because men are constantly told through media, culture, and yeah, even among other men that they're supposed to be big, burly beefcakes--they're supposed to be dominant, aggressive, bearded manly animals. And our culture does a lot to build up women, not so much to build up men. 

 

You know what? Women are told that we're beautiful, we're queens, we're strong and powerful and can do anything we set our minds to. Which is totally true. But men need to be told the same thing: they're kings, they're beautiful and noble and would give their hearts and souls to protect those they love. And they need to be told it's okay to be gentle and wear something pretty, and not be these closed off, stoic, rugged Marlboro men who look off into the sunset. 

 

I don't know. It's late, and I'm tired, but I know exactly what you're talking about. I feel like there's a lot of, well, not blaming exactly, but definitely expectations for men. And I just know someone's going to jump down my throat about "the patriarchy!!1!" and fine then, bring it on. I love guys, and it sucks to hear about anyone who doesn't feel beautiful. Because everyone ought to, at least a few times in their life. 

[Neon Sparkleflutter 22]

In a word, No.

 

I mean, I make do with being a dude. I don't plan on transitioning or anything at this point in my life, but if I could wake up tomorrow and start life completely over as a Girl, I'd do it no question.

 

However, as deeply disappointed as I am that I wasn't born in the correct body, I do NOT let stereotypes and stupid Gender norms get in my way. If I like something, I like it. I won't avoid it just because someone tells me it's for Girls.

[MysticShine 529]

I think I'll stick with being a male. The though of child birth makes me cringe.

[Felix 1,363]

I really do like being male. But...sometimes it doesn't feel right if that makes sense. I'm still happy with it though! I wouldn't have it any other way. ^^

[Sazama Ichida 2,367]

I'm so weak and effeminate for a guy that I honestly sometimes wonder if maybe I was actually meant to be a girl...

And alot of people in school thought that I was gay. I was also quite late ever taking an interest in girls.

[Usual Crypty 4,708]

Yes! I'm crying every day from happiness, that I'm male and wiping my tears with my beard.

 

But, seriously, I never thought about it.

[Phoenix Flair 332]

I love being a girl, but I don't love how my gender is treated.  

[Henny Penny Benny 936]

Well, it's the only sex I've got. It'd be kinda silly of me to be anything but happy with it. Even if I wanted to, it's not like I could trade my Y chromosome for an X.