Physical Attractiveness or Personality?

[Discordian 6,015]

I don't think I could go with one over the other. I'd honestly prefer having both.

 

Of course, there's not really a standard I can hold either to.

[Steel Accord 6,660]

Personality. I have little choice in the matter, as it turns out.

 

http://www.asexuality.org/wiki/index.php?title=Demisexual

 

It really does work out in that order actually though. I've only had one meaningful romantic relationship thus far. She and I just seemed to click together. As I grew closer to her, I began to see her in a far less PG light. It just goes to show though that it's just how my brain works. 

 

I do have objective preferences to appearance. (Long, black hair, blue eyes, etc.) However, with female friends of mine. I just don't really notice them that way until I really start to get to know them.

 

So I would say personality is a biological imperative over appearance in my case.

 

And just because!

 

[Keen Blade 64]

Something I think is worth noting is that what you think about a person actually affects how physically attractive they seem to you.

[Peikko 56]

Something I think is worth noting is that what you think about a person actually affects how physically attractive they seem to you.

 

100% agree. Personality will make someone more (or less) physically attractive. Someone that's drop-dead gorgeous will lose their luster if they have a truly ugly personality. Adversely, someone that you might not be physically attracted to at first might become more attractive to you over time once you get to know them properly. 

[Poetic Justice 170]

I am a shallow person, I'll admit it. However, I as I get to know the person more, I do find them more attractive physically. So I think that they build on top of each other

[Keen Blade 64]

100% agree. Personality will make someone more (or less) physically attractive. Someone that's drop-dead gorgeous will lose their luster if they have a truly ugly personality. Adversely, someone that you might not be physically attracted to at first might become more attractive to you over time once you get to know them properly. 

Yeah, exactly. The example I heard was Abraham Lincoln. In his time, he was considered pretty ugly, but he's deified in our own age.

 

In the other direction, I think there's more to physical attractiveness than just your body: it's also a matter of posture, carriage, expression, and how you dress yourself, and those are all things that I think can potentially reflect who a person is inwardly. Of course, people can exploit that fact to make themselves seem like more than they are, and there are always people (like me) who don't actually give it much consideration in practice.

[The Crimson Cross 7,532]

I'm going to have to go with personality over attractiveness itself.

Simply because a good personality can make someone seem much more attractive in my opinion.

[Guest]

I'm going to be honest, and say physical attractiveness, first and foremost. If I don't find the person attractive, then I wouldn't really approach her on a "hey-you-wanna-go-on-a-date?" level. I'm sorry, but I want to enjoy what I'm looking at, not sitting and re-thinking my choice.

 

Of course, if she turns out to have a shit personality, but is really hot.. then.. yeah.

 

There'll always be another one. 

Edited November 3, 2014 by Guest

[NotoriousSMALL 1,984]

I think its pretty pretentious to see someone say they ONLY care about personality, because you can try to look as gentlemanly as possible but looks play just a big a role as any. Our mind is programmed to look for healthy looking mates. And if you look good it usually corresponds to healty. (Weight, hygiene, etc.). Personally im not gunna lie i like how the ladies look, but if we share no common ground and/or cant get along then its a no go. Thats why i broke up with one of my exes, she was pretty but she was full of herself and we didnt have much in common.

[Vox 870]

I think its pretty pretentious to see someone say they ONLY care about personality, because you can try to look as gentlemanly as possible but looks play just a big a role as any. Our mind is programmed to look for healthy looking mates. And if you look good it usually corresponds to healty. (Weight, hygiene, etc.). Personally im not gunna lie i like how the ladies look, but if we share no common ground and/or cant get along then its a no go. Thats why i broke up with one of my exes, she was pretty but she was full of herself and we didnt have much in common.

Very true, in fact physical attractiveness and well being often reflect the person's dignity and value of oneself, which correlates with intelligence of course.

[RrVPfX9cPtw59FpC 1,304]

Well, let's see: If this were a flowchart, I would first see if I could realistically date someone attractive. Despite my unbelieveably sexy looks, I don't really stand a chance. So, it would then go to if I could realistically date someone with a good personality. That's quite possible. In fact, I've dated outside of my sexual orientation because of it (Hi, Brechard and Jokuc). So, to me, personality is more important.

[Ethnomusicologist 15]

Personality. Still physical appearance does make an important factor subconsciously to everyone and no matter what you think, the person's physical appearance will matter.

[Zekromic 1,054]

Personality, but that doesn't mean I'll ignore physical appearance, I'm just less picky with it  -_-

[DJPON-3-#Power11 78]

im not the kind of guy who sees you for your atractiveness im the kind of guy who sees you for your sweet kind nature and how awesome you are of a person. you can be as pretty as you want to be ill complement you but thats not why i fell in love with you. basically ill look at your face not your chest so to speak. 

[Visual Spectrum 1,932]

Most people will say it's the personality because if you say it's physical attraction, you will look like a jerk. Unfortunately, most people go for looks over personality. If someone is not attractive, they won't even give them a chance. If you aren't attractive, no offense, but you have to have a really big personality or find someone desperate to have a partner. 

 

I personally go for personality considering I do online dating. However, I will still need to know what the person looks like so I know I'm not dating a child or someone too old. Though I do find physical features to be attractive and may judge people based on how they look. (I shouldn't do that.)

[DJPON-3-#Power11 78]

lol. in some cases thats true. but not with me. if you look ugly ill tell you that but let it down in a way thats not mean. if your hot ill tell you your hot but not in a way that will make you seem full of yourself. you dont really have to change yourself for me just be who you really are not someone who you have to be for the person you love to like you. if that person cant like you for you then he is a douchbag then.

if you want to be in a serous relationship with me then be yourself don't change yourself for me. 

[Red Cedar 1,408]

Physical attractiveness gets me interested. Personality keeps me sticking around.

 

That said, personality has also won me over when physical attractiveness on its own didn't. The reverse is not true.

[DJPON-3-#Power11 78]

the best thing i love in a person is the real you.

[Champion RD92 8,658]

Obviously both, I mean you need to be attracted to both a person's personality as well as looks in order to really be attracted to them, at least in my opinion.

[Steel Accord 6,660]

Something I think is worth noting is that what you think about a person actually affects how physically attractive they seem to you.

 

 

100% agree. Personality will make someone more (or less) physically attractive. Someone that's drop-dead gorgeous will lose their luster if they have a truly ugly personality. Adversely, someone that you might not be physically attracted to at first might become more attractive to you over time once you get to know them properly. 

 

The eye perceives what the heart wants it to see.

[Vox 870]

Physical attractiveness gets me interested. Personality keeps me sticking around.That said, personality has also won me over when physical attractiveness on its own didn't. The reverse is not true.

Very too the point, and well said

Edited November 3, 2014 by VoxPolice

[SunsetShadow 37]

For me its all about the personality I want someone I can connect with emotionally, a shoulder to cry on when I'm down and I wake up in the morning and smile because I love him that's all that I will ever need from a relationship. <3

[TenorSounds 832]

I think both are equally important. I'm not going to try and delude myself into thinking I'd want to be in a relationship with someone who has a perfect personality but that I don't find physically attractive, but a pretty face won't save an ugly personality either. You need a balance of physical and emotional attraction in any healthy relationship, I think. I usually take the "all I care about is personality!" claim with a grain of salt, as that usually falls apart if there's absolutely no physical attraction.

 

Luckily my current relationship has plenty physical and emotional attraction 

Edited November 4, 2014 by TenorSounds

[CT-1138 3,182]

Personality, but look do matter a little bit to me.

Edited November 4, 2014 by Dinos4Ever

[Moonlight 7,286]

Personality matters more, however if you look like you haven't showered in months, then yeah, looks do kind of matter there.