Questionarie: what you think about Long Distance Relationships?

[Rethajni 2,661]

Hey-o Ponies! today ill bring you this questionarie about your views with Long distance relationships, there's 10 questions about your opinion, just remember, if you wanna explain your motives of those choices, or want something to add and express with your fellow bronies, you can share it with us in the coments, and remember to be respectful with replies, thank you!

[Moonlight 7,286]

Most of my replies were either neutral or pro. An online relationship has the same amount of chance of working out just like a real life relationship. As long as the two (or more) dating eventually meet up, then it's fine. The main problems with it are time zones and lack of physical contact, but other than that, the relationship can easily work out as long as the people involved are willing to make it work. 

[Rethajni 2,661]

Personally long distance relationship has pros and cons, many persons prefer phisical contact, other persons prefer just to talk, it was a lot of content to make a debate, but the most important is that if you like it by any reasons, so be it, IRL and LD relationships has prons and cons

[Alleviate 342]

Depending on exactly what you deem to be a 'long-distance relationship', I could be in one. I can't see my girlfriend very often at all due to the fact we live a while apart (and several other minor factors,) so our relationship is mainly long-distance communication over the internet. It's all good, and just as strong as any average relationship. One very nice thing about using the internet to talk is the fact, (over text at least) you don't have to answer spontaneously- you can think out your answers carefully, so you manage to avoid the bulk of the bad-timing moments when talking.

 

It's just the same as a normal relationship, though being able to actually be with them is a lot better. The only other issue is that with some of the relationships, where people don't truly know who they're talking to, can get messy. It's just an inherent danger of the internet though.

[Ashen Pathfinder 16,161]

Hello @Balareth!

 

As this topic doesn't have much to do with FiM or the brony community specifically, I'll be moving it to General Discussion. Please keep in mind that brony-specific topics belong here in Sugarcube Corner.

 

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[RainbowTashie 378]

i suppose it depends how much you trust the person and how much you love them. Temptations are going to be there for both parties.

[CheeryFox 23,821]

From experience, long distance relationships are a lot harder than normal ones. I've had 8 g/fs total, two of which were online (including my present girlfriend). Any type of relationship can be quite taxing, some more than others. 

 

I'm glad there's a better assortment of choices that can be made nowadays. Instead, (for example), just the bar/school/work scene. Fear can play a big part at first (like all relationships really), but once things get goin', it gets easier to cope with and everything gets real. 

[Miles 2,512]

I think some of the options in some of the questions are a bit lacking.  A good amount of them I'd have preferred an option that wasn't there.  I'll just go ahead and use this post to show the answers I gave (see inside the spoiler).  For the question I felt needed another option the most, or rather, a much more extended answer, I will do it after that, below the spoiler.
 

 

1. What do you think about long distance relationships?
Just as valid as any other.

2. Would you like to have one?
Absolutely! 
I would have liked an option for "I'm in one right now."

3. Is [it] the new way to find love?
It depends.
I would have liked an option saying "It's not the new way - but it's just another way, and is just as viable."

4. Will [they] last as much?
Same chances as any other.

5. What is better?
I am good with both ways.

6. How powerful are [they]?
I feel just as loved as an IRL relationship.

7. Benefits?
I didn't like any of the options, tbh.  I chose "accessibility" because of Skype.  I would say the benefit literally is having the relationship itself.

8. Cons?
No physical contact, and the times the other person might be online.

9. How safe?
Same as any other.
Well, that's what I put.  Because it is how I feel personally.  But I'm sure other people may not feel the same.

10. Would you do whatever it takes to see your loved one?
(This is answered outside of the spoiler).

The last question in the poll: Would you do whatever it takes to see your loved one?

I would love to be able to meet him in person, it would be amazing.  But not being able to do that right now does not make it any less meaningful, etc.  We talk using Skype to instant message each other basically every day.  When I'm not in class, and not doing homework, and both of us are online, most likely we are talking to each other on Skype.

I <3

~ Miles

[Overdrive 5,366]

Here's the thing: it takes a lot of time, it takes a lot of patience, and it takes a lot of trust, faith and commitment to have a long distance relationship, let alone any sort of relationship. Yes, it's hard to not have your special somepony physically with you. Yes, there are times where you do have to have faith that your special somepony is being faithful to you.

 

But no matter how you look at it, it's pretty much the same as any other relationship you may have in life, albeit a bit more disconnected. Ultimately, it's each and every individual's decision about whether or not it's worth pursuing something like this, but at the same time, what's life without a little risk?

 

I'd like to say I am in a long distance relationship, but it's kinda complicated. I will say this, though: You won't know until you at least try. You literally don't know what could happen. For all you know, you might strike it out, but you might also find the one very special somepony you couldn't live without.

[Thuja 3,659]

I think it would depend on the person.  Personally having two long distance relationships end very poorly, I'm a bit on the fence about having another(however, I'm on the fence about plenty of things lol).  Though if someone wants to have a long distance relationship, I don't see anything stopping them, do whatever makes you happy. 

[Guest90210 3,568]

1. What do you think about long distance relationships?

Just as valid as any other.

 

2. Would you like to have one?

Absolutely! 

I would have liked an option for "I'm in one right now."

 

3. Is [it] the new way to find love?

It depends.

I would have liked an option saying "It's not the new way - but it's just another way, and is just as viable."

 

4. Will [they] last as much?

Same chances as any other.

 

5. What is better?

I am good with both ways.

 

6. How powerful are [they]?

I feel just as loved as an IRL relationship.

 

7. Benefits?

I didn't like any of the options, tbh.  I chose "accessibility" because of Skype.  I would say the benefit literally is having the relationship itself.

 

8. Cons?

No physical contact, and the times the other person might be online.

 

9. How safe?

Same as any other.

Well, that's what I put.  Because it is how I feel personally.  But I'm sure other people may not feel the same.

 

10. Would you do whatever it takes to see your loved one?

(This is answered outside of the spoiler).

 

 

 

The last question in the poll: Would you do whatever it takes to see your loved one?

 

I would love to be able to meet him in person, it would be amazing.  But not being able to do that right now does not make it any less meaningful, etc.  We talk using Skype to instant message each other basically every day.  When I'm not in class, and not doing homework, and both of us are online, most likely we are talking to each other on Skype.

 

I <3

 

~ Miles

 

This. These are my thoughts as well 

 

While distance may separate those in a long distance relationship, nothing can distance their hearts. It takes patience, understanding, honesty and trust, as any normal relationship would. It's just as fulfilling as a normal relationship could be. There are hurdles, but those hurdles are not too tall to leap.

 

The day I meet my special somebody in person is a day I await with great anticipation, but I'm very happy with where it's at right now. Our relationship is just as strong and meaningful regardless. Our bond is not shaken by the miles that separate us. 

 

I <3 @Miles

[Koukatsu 5,899]

Given how many people can be entirely two-faced in person, it's not much riskier to be in an online relationship.

If you never want to have physical contact (Asexual), that's the best way for such a relationship to work out, IMO.

I do think such a relationship takes more faith, and work, than two people who are geographically close, because love is influenced by shared experience, and you can have more of that when you retain proximity to each other, as opposed to talking about your day and such from across the continent, or globe.

That said, love is love, and if you're happy, regardless of the situation you're in, then so be it.

[galaxysquid 2,122]

A long distance relationship is as good as any other relationship! 

I believe that a LDR is a great relationship. When you meet someone online, you can find the same likes and dislikes, favorite foods, favorite hobbies, and connect with them. You can find the right person with the same interests as you, easier than in person! 

 

I've been in a LDR for a year and a few months now, and I'm loving it. Even though we have tough times, not being able to see each other every day and missing each other a ton, it just makes our love for each other grow every day.

[Snow Frostflame 3,568]

I think they are about as pointless and stupid as regular relationships

[~Chaos~ 3,967]

If you really want to work hard at maintaining the relationship then by all means do it!

 

Some people prefer the physicality of a relationship, but if you really love them and you met online, then it's totally worth it in the end.

[DubWolf 17,263]

Being in a long-distance relationship, it all depends on how close two people are willing to be with each other . The farther the distance, the harder it is, plus you can't hug or kiss or snuggle :C . I don't think there's anyone else out there for me but Swirly .

[The Shyest One 808]

A long distance relationship is just as good as a in person relationship, just with a few set backs. You would have to be okay with no physical contact with the person, and you have to have a good trusr in them too. With people online, they can be whatever they or who you want without having to risk exposing the person they really are. You also don't know what goes on in their real life aside from what they tell you, or if you befriend their irl friends by chance. But there are some people who really do want to make an effort to make it work, and that's all that matters. If both people can get around that, then they can have a successful relationship.

[Henny Penny Benny 936]

I feel like it largely depends. Ultimately, I don't see any meaningful purpose for a romantic relationship beyond marriage, so a face-to-face meeting should ideally be pursued. That's how I met my now-girlfriend.

 

But the type of long-distance relationships OP seems to be talking about are those on Internet forums like this, where people ofttimes seem primarily just to want a sense of companionship, someone to talk sweetly to, without any necessary commitment or long-term relationship goals. And that, I don't think is healthy—at least, I wouldn't want it for myself. Without making any effort to meet in person and pursue tangible relationship goals, it seems usually to create merely the illusion of love and intimacy, the good feelings that come with having a significant other, without actually having to deal with the difficulties and frustrations of long-term commitment.

 

I have had one such relationship before, with a girl I met on a missions trip to Mexico. I was only 15 or 16 at the time, and she was probably a couple years younger; I didn't speak Spanish and she didn't speak English, so I relied on online translators to communicate. And really, there was no depth to our "relationship" whatsoever. We both just liked the idea of being in a relationship. It was nothing more than infatuation, and not even infatuation with the other person so much as infatuation with the idea of romance. And many long-distance, online relationships seem to me (at least from my admittedly limited perspective on the outside looking in) to be very similar to that.

 

Of course, that's a broad generalization, and it scarcely applies to every long-distance relationship. But I'd put money down that it applies to a lot of them, even though no one wants to consider that it might apply to their own. So I guess what I'll leave y'all with (after my rambling) is this: don't assume a relationship is bad just because it's long-distance and you've not (yet) met in person, but don't assume it's good just because it feels nice, either.

[Invincible 2,091]

I tried this once when i was what, 14 or 15? ... it didn't work out. I didn't even bother since.

 

There's a certain physical quality that you miss out on - the human body warmth, the unique scent of another person, their touch. The closeness you share with another, physical or otherwise. When i grow this intimate with a person i can feel like i can let my guard down, and be who i am in their presence. 

 

No offense to all long-distance couples reading this, but this concept isn't for me. I yearn the proximity to my loved one.

[Guest]

It depends a lot on the person if it works for them. But if you're committed it'll work just as well as a RL relationship. But I do think there are a lot of people online who will take advantage of you.

 

I've met people online and had long distance relationships but I always met them in real life after some time to turn it RL. Personally I just need to be with the person physically, only online is not enough.

 

My current relationship started out online. Then we met eachother and then decided to move to his country to live with him.

[NotoriousSMALL 1,984]

I believe long distance relationships are possible except for one factor... pheremones. If your subconcious doesnt like the other persons pheremones then the relationship will not work out. Thats why irl meetings are so important. And there is just as much danger as an online relationship as a physical one. I have a personal experience, my father dated a girl who turned out to be a sociopath and a drug addict. She stole money from my sister and also blamed stuff on me. You dont always know what youre getting in to.

 

I had a long distance relationship with a girl from georgia, she was down for spring break. I cut it off with her and two years later, this school year, she moves down her and i kinda regret it -_-

Edited January 23, 2015 by NotoriousSMALL

[SparklingSquirrels 21,341]

Hmm it's kinda hard to say for me. I'm in a long distance relationship, but I think I would prefer a real life relationship since you can do a lot more things together. However, no one in real life cares about me half as much as Wolfie does, so yeah, I'd rather be in a long distance relationship with Wolfie than in a real life relationship with anyone else. (in other words, I fell in love with Wolfie, not the relationship)

 

I think real life relationships and long distance relationships can be similar in some ways, though. I mean, people can't always be trusted in real life either.

Edited January 23, 2015 by SparklingSwirls

[Here No Longer 5,276]

Bump.

 

The questionnaire doesn't have really the responses I'd give to some of these.

 

1. Online relationships are a good option if for whatever reason you can't find someone in real life, eg you're looking for the same sex but you live in a small town in the Southern US.

2. I already have one that lives 2 hours drive away, close to Houston. My BF and I met through an LGBT forum. It's working out great.

3. Yes I do, refer to 1.

4. As always, it depends more on those involved than anything else.

5. It's better to know each other IRL, bUT even then I've known my BF IRL since April.

6. Just as much so as a short-distance one, as long as contact is maintained.

7. It's good for people who lack social skills and are in an environment or situation where it may be difficult to find a partner.

8. The primary con isthat it's harder to maintain contact, especially the longer the distance. But there's also a good chance you might not know the other person all that well. Forums are better for this though in my experience.

9. They're safe as long as you take the necessary precautions.

10. Yes. He does it for me! 

[Lucky Bolt 35,063]

I don't prefer long distance relationships, no. But sometimes they just happen, if fate brings you and that special person together, as it did me.  And to all the people who say all LDRs don't work out in the end...you are wrong. 

My bf and I met online right here on the forums and have been together ever since...it's been a year and a half now. We live about 1000 miles apart but every couple of months or so we are able to meet up. I will say though, if he lived any farther away or we were unable to meet at all, I wouldn't have kept up with it. Not being able to be with him only for a few days every couple of months is draining enough. 

[Samurai Equine 51,514]

Personally, I'm indifferent about long distance relationships.

I use to do it a few times when I was younger. Some lasted, some ended so fast that you might as well call it a fling. I'm basically done with it now. I think I'd rather try and make a relationship with someone IRL (or if it does happen online, there needs to be a high chance of us getting together in IRL, or at least visiting each other very often IRL).

I'm not as young as I use to be. I wouldn't say old (I'm in my 30's), but I've noticed in my age that long-distance relationships and online dating is more for the younger crowd than it is for people like me. But if it's something you want to do, and it's working for you, then more power to you. 

Edited August 31, 2019 by Samurai Equine