general Do most fathers hate the idea of their daughter being in a romantic relationship with someone?

[AlicornSpell 142]

Most fathers do seem to hate it whenever their daughter starts dating guys. So it seems that most fathers don't want their daughter to ever find love.

[Megas 27,066]

No, most fathers deep down would love it. A lot of it is fathers being worried they aren't "the right guy" for their daughter and won't treat them right

[Here No Longer 5,270]

I'm honestly not sure, and I will very likely never be able to answer that question personally.

[Mini 451]

my dad said he doesn't really care about the boys I date as long as they know how to properly shake his hand lol

[Will Guide 21,325]

On 8/15/2019 at 5:56 AM, AlicornSpell said:

Most fathers do seem to hate it whenever their daughter starts dating guys. So it seems that most fathers don't want their daughter to ever find love.

Must you fall for the cliche overprotective father thing? My dad wouldn't hate me (even if I was his daughter instead of his son) for finding love; he simply wants to make sure I don't rush into a relationship. There's a difference

[Kamii 594]

Unlike most of the ones posting, I can see where @AlicornSpell is coming from. I've been dating for a year and my father still hates the idea. He can't be reminded of that fact, he has previously called my boyfriend names and has no desire to meet him. I don't think most fathers are like this though, they may just care for their daughters so they don't end up in a bad relationship.

[Lucky Bolt 34,914]

Well, I've been dating the same guy for whole year and a half now, and my dad still hasn't gotten over the fact that I have a boyfriend.  But honestly I don't think he ever will. He likes the bf, he just doesn't like the fact I'm growing up. 

[Justin_Case001 4,857]

Yeah, that is the stereotype, isn't it?  At least that's how it is on tv, anyway.  If a dad has a son, it's always, "My son had his first kiss?  My son has a girlfriend?  Yeah!  Atta boy!  My son, the ladies man!  Way to go!"  But if a dad has a daughter, it's always, "WHAT?  My daughter has a boyfriend!  Not on my watch!  Where is that bastard!?  I'm gonna kick his ass!  He'll regret the day he ever laid hands on you!"  Just one of the many, many, many reasons I hate being male.  We're portrayed as the villains.  And that shouldn't come a surprise I suppose, considering that nearly all violent criminals happen to be male.  The bad ones ruin it for everyone.  I just hope that most fathers irl don't fit this tv stereotype.

[Ashen Pathfinder 16,152]

While it is a common stereotype that isn't indicative of the general populace...sadly enough, there is a reason the stereotype does exist. Some fathers are like that. Hell, I know one! Always boasting that "my daughter better not be coming in with a black man or anything like that; the Bible forbids it" and nonsense like that. While the cliché is quite tiring in media...it exists for a reason, sadly.

[Twilight Luna 30,941]

Most likely because they know how boys are at that age. They know that boys tend to think with a certain part of their bodies and not their brains. 

[Sunny Fox 5,929]

I think it's more that fathers / mothers want to protect their daughters from the wrong kind of guy, rather than objecting to the idea in itself. There are a lot of jerks out there, I'm sure no one will be suprised to hear. Teenage brains are not exactly the most discerning decision makers either, so a parent could understandably be concerned about his / her daughter's hormones making the decisions for her, and her falling for a boy who ends up being a mistake and an eternal regret. Then again, perhaps that boy will grow out of his youthful.... youth and end up being an equal member of the relationship.

And what about the converse? How do mothers feel about their son meeting and interacting with women?

[AlicornSpell 142]

9 hours ago, Kamii said:

Unlike most of the ones posting, I can see where @AlicornSpell is coming from. I've been dating for a year and my father still hates the idea. He can't be reminded of that fact, he has previously called my boyfriend names and has no desire to meet him. I don't think most fathers are like this though, they may just care for their daughters so they don't end up in a bad relationship.

No offense, but your dad seems like he's being very immature about it. The way that he is acting is very unnecessary and extreme. 

[Moondrop 💧 743]

I can only speak from my step father and my mother's ex partner.. But usually families around here tend to be pushy. 

"Do you have a boyfriend??", "when will you start looking for one?", "familyfriendsson1 is a really nice guy, I think you'd get along great! *HINTHINT*"... They want you to get with one of their coworkers kids usually. Blahrg. 

I only had a boyfriend once and actually kept it secret from my family to avoid annoying questions. Plus it didn't last long anyway. 

[Venomous 18,813]

This is true for a good amount of fathers but it’s not true for every father. I am not a father but I assume it’s because they just don’t want any harm coming to their child and wishes to protect them through sensitive life stages, such as when they start to date. My dad was and still is nothing but supportive of me dating. My mom is much more iffy of it than him.

[Jeric 46,835]

As a actual real life father .... I’ll just sit back and read the comments on what fathers in general are like with respect to this. At least for now. 

[Jeric 46,835]

 

 

I will say that most decent parents (irrespective of gender) tend to be suspicious of those people who associate with their child(ren) 

[Dreambiscuit 8,024]

Fathers do want their daughters to find and experience true love and be happy in their lives. Having a protective attitude based on knowledge of young males should not be misinterpreted as selfish or uncaring. There are a lot of young, immature males who are out for one thing and it’s important to watch out for them. Dads are trying to protect their daughters’ dignity, happiness and safety. I can think of worse traits.  

[AlicornSpell 142]

On 2019-08-15 at 10:08 AM, Justin_Case001 said:

If a dad has a son, it's always, "My son had his first kiss?  My son has a girlfriend?  Yeah!  Atta boy!  My son, the ladies man!  Way to go!"  But if a dad has a daughter, it's always, "WHAT?  My daughter has a boyfriend!  Not on my watch!  Where is that bastard!?  I'm gonna kick his ass!  He'll regret the day he ever laid hands on you!"  

Pretty hypocritical since that's someone else's daughter that his son is dating. 

[AlicornSpell 142]

It seems that fathers usually hate it whenever their daughter gets a boyfriend (even if the boyfriend is a good guy), and it seems that they often hate the idea of their daughter dating, and many fathers seem against the idea of their daughters dating. There are even shirts made for daughters that say "I'M NOT ALLOWED TO EVER DATE" and shirts made for fathers that say "Dads against daughters dating".

 

There's also a lot of other shirts and merchandise made for fathers that say stuff like "Rules for dating my daughter: #1. You can't!" or "Before you date my daughter, know this: I'm a dad with a shotgun, a shovel, and a backyard."

 

Most fathers don't want their daughters to have anything to do with boys outside of being friends. Many fathers won't allow their daughters to date when they are in high school or still living with them.

 

So it seems that most fathers don't ever want their daughters to find love and be in a romantic relationship with someone, and so it seems that most fathers do want their daughters to be single for their whole life. 

Edited August 28, 2021 by AlicornSpell

[AlicornSpell 142]

Here's a YouTube video about overprotective fathers: 

The Overprotective Dad | Dad Talk - YouTube

The dad at the beginning of the video says “I think the stereotype of the dads who don’t want anyone to date their daughter is 100% accurate.”

Edited January 16, 2022 by AlicornSpell

[AlicornSpell 142]

It’s more of a desire for the father to see the daughter young and happy. Most fathers will find their children “adorable” and “innocent” and don’t ever want them to stop being adorable and innocent. What I find is that, parents often want to protect their cold from potential dangers to their innocence, such as the internet, or “dating”. Especially with woman, the father might see this as a potential threat for their daughter, as who knows who the person they are dating could turn out to be. It’s more of a general father kind of thing, and sometimes motherly thing, to want to protect your child from danger. So, that’s why the whole “father not allowing daughter to have boyfriend” thing comes from, I believe.

 

Dating and marriage are dangerous and are a reason why romance and falling in love is a bad thing.

[Sonic Shimmer 4,116]

I'm not a parent, and unlikely to ever be, but I don't really get why they would feel this way. Surely they should just be happy that their daughter is happy?

[Lord Chin Chin 1,201]

Not as much as some hate their son being in a relationship with another boy I can tell you that from experience 😂

[Evil Pink One 12,990]

Good father's no when his daughter is dating a man or a boy... And every father hates seeing their daughter dating a BOY...

so daughters... Date a man not a boy..... 

You can date a woman too XD

[ridaranka 572]

When my dad hears anything about a boy his eyes turn to ice color. Same with the other men in my family.. they are like angry sharks then