Do you have an easy time making friends?

[Tom Gallagher 33,650]

Unfortunately, no. I wish it was as easy to make friends in public as it is here. 

[dead account 2,719]

No, it's not easy for me. In real life, it's easier to talk to people and most people I speak to do like me or are friendly. Living in a smaller village, I don't have many options to meet people in general. Maybe things would be different otherwise.

Online is very hard, though, because it lacks most things real life has to offer. I can't see the eyes while writing. I can't see how they react and all the subtle signals. It makes understanding harder. Also, most people vanish after some time in my experience and I eventually do the same, when no one is remaining. Many online people aren't interested and stop talking. I respect that of course. But in general...yeah, online is extremely difficult and most relationships aren't forever. I met my best friend online and we couldn't be more happy, so it is definitely possible~ Just needs a bit of luck and always remaining active, no matter how hard it is.

[Splashee 28,606]

It can be easy to find a friend, but find someone you can share everything with is very difficult

[Adorable Lovestar 244]

I like to think I make new friends easily enough, but I also worry about keeping up with them all, sometimes. I keep friends until we aren't friends anymore.

[Splashee 28,606]

12 minutes ago, Adorable Lovestar said:

I like to think I make new friends easily enough, but I also worry about keeping up with them all, sometimes. I keep friends until we aren't friends anymore.

You gained a friend very quickly just now.

I would like to see you make a Welcome post in Welcome Plaza section though? Just to know you a little better?

[Savy 5,661]

I try to make friends, not very easily, but I can try and I love making them. 

[They call me Loyalty 1,958]

Yes, but I have a hard time keeping them. Most of my relationships fade away because I tend to disappear for long periods of time. My mind wanders off, and I must go and find it. So, only a small group of friends remain. And to be honest. It is always them talking to me. Because, otherwise I wouldn't call them on my own. They know me very well. That I am a little different from most people, and still accept me as I am. They don't expect anything from me. The same way I don't expect anything from them. And still they know I will be always there for them if they need my help.

[King of Canterlot 9,610]

It's easier for me to make friends online in settings like the forums here than it is for me to make friends in real life. In real life I've pretty much always been a social outcast, growing up I literally only had one friend, all throughout Elementary and Middle school. When I moved to a different state and started High School, I had no friends because now my one and only friend that I had was six hours away. High School was pretty lonely for me and I never really made any friends during my time there. 

Being online though, and especially on websites like the forums here where we all share one common interest- ponies- has helped me to make several new friends that I didn't have before! Being a part of this community in general has helped me to connect with other ponies, which is good because maintaining some level of social interaction is important. I don't think it would have been very great for my mental health to not have any close by irl friends and at the same time not have any online friends either.  I don't know what I would do without you guys   

[Vefka 1,504]

Nah, I have this weird paranoia that I'm too annoying if I start convo or meet people first. So every friend in my life is my friend only because he were willing to know me better

[Awkward Segway 319]

No, I'm way too shy and introverted.

[Emerald Heart 25,402]

Honestly? Yes.

I make friends super easily.

[Ittoni 539]

making them? yes. The problem for me is maintaining them. 

[Thuja 3,669]

Not really, I normally don't talk to people much.  If I could get away with it, I'd probably be a hermit in some sort of deep forest with my only contact with the outside world is my internet and also a once in a while stall I'd have at a local farmer's market where I sell produce or maybe a check-up with a doctor???  Besides that, no one knows who I am.  I'd be like the Grinch except I'd steal Halloween 

[ExplosionMare 28,944]

Nope, I just kinda have to hope they come to me. I’ve been very fortunate, especially since one of my best friends loves to invite themselves over. You may think that’s a conceited thing to do, but to someone who gets nervous about asking to hang out, I think it’s great! 

[Petrus 696]

I was horrible at it before. I used to be the person no one really talked to. But I’ve broken it down to a science and had success with it ever since. Basically if you can laugh along with something that someone’s saying, like a joke you overheard. That’ll stick with them, they’ll remember that you in particular liked that joke, and then you just work your way to joking around back with them. Then it goes further to hanging out then friend groups then more friends in those groups that they introduce you to.

thank you for listening to my TED Talk

Edited August 3, 2020 by Petrus

[Splashee 28,606]

I have a more difficult time right now since I am spending all my time on my projects. I barley keep up with my current friends. It's a trade off. I would rather find time to work and progress in life that waste my time on Youtube, and sadly, by doing that I also stay far away from friends

[Clawdeen 26,533]

It depeeeeends. If I’m at lets say a book club, then I’m going to have a high chance of meeting someone who I’ve got stuff in common with. Which makes it easy to make a friend. if I’m out at a random spot,starting a new college class or at someone’s party it can be hard, unless the other person is a very outgoing people person. I gotta see the situation and the people. Get a feel for everyone’s personalities. It can be easy or hard for me. It all just depends. 

In the workplace? No. Heavily guarded at work. I don’t trust anybody. Got burned way too many times. People try to get close to me, up goes the wall.

[ExplosionMare 28,944]

19 hours ago, Blitzo said:

It depeeeeends. If I’m at lets say a book club, then I’m going to have a high chance of meeting someone who I’ve got stuff in common with. Which makes it easy to make a friend. if I’m out at a random spot,starting a new college class or at someone’s party it can be hard, unless the other person is a very outgoing people person. I gotta see the situation and the people. Get a feel for everyone’s personalities. It can be easy or hard for me. It all just depends. 

In the workplace? No. Heavily guarded at work. I don’t trust anybody. Got burned way too many times. People try to get close to me, up goes the wall.

I’m pretty much the same way. I try and approach people I don’t normally talk to now and then but for the most part it feels awkward.

[Vefka 1,504]

Nah, I'm terrible at reading people (I think I've even lost a few friends because I did something bad and didn't realize it)

Plus my severe anxiety. I can kinda keep up with existing friends or when people talk to me first (this way I'm sure that they're interested in talking to me). But I've almost never started a conversation first, I have a strong feeling that I'll annoy the person or fuck up in some way, the fear is too much to overpower. I had a lot of moments when I met an interesting person with similar interests but just couldn't talk to them

[abronymouse 6,158]

*shakes head* I like to have fun with people but find it hard to get comfortable with 'em.

[Jokuc 8,176]

Yes and no. It is not difficult for me to carry a conversation and be talkative.. which makes it pretty easy to introduce myself and get to know people. However, I usually do not interact with people I do not know unless I either have to or if there is some sort of social event that requires you to talk such as.. playing board games or similar. So to answer the question, I am not making many friends because I am not really trying to. If I did, I doubt I would have any problems. I am very good at creating new relationships but I am horrible at maintaining them.

[FeatherNight 35]

Hahahahahahahhahahhhah.

[Savy 5,661]

I used to have a hard time making friends, and I still do kind of, but since I made that last post above I've made some pretty amazing friends, including my best friend who I love dearly.

[Astralshy 31,262]

It used to be very hard when I was a child/teenager, but after I grew out of my shyness it became a lot easier. I'm still an introvert, but if I choose so I can actively approach people. This being said, even if it got easier for me to approach people, it became harder and harder to find people you can trust and in my experience many people just try to exploit one.

 

"If so, do you keep those new friends?"

I keep a friend as long as we both wants it. And as long as I'm not exploited or betrayed, I don't see any reason to stop being friends. Some friendship are close some other are not.

 

"How long do you tend to keep friends?"

as long as possible

 

"Are you an introvert or an extrovert? "

introvert

 

 

[Clawdeen 26,533]

No I don't seem to.