Happy being single?

[Cherrychip 113]

I've been in a few troublesome romantic relationships, so being single for now is cool with me. I don't need to find someone right away, personally 

[Axel 1,059]

Lowkey being single after a relationship is fine but it gets to you after awhile to the point where its a horrible feeling seeing everyone being together and you're just there by yourself. Still single for now but hoping that changes soon.  

[Cash In 22,313]

Mostly yes. I've been single long enough to the point where I don't really miss the feeling of being in a relationship anymore. It lets me enjoy having more time and money to spend on myself. On the other hand, part of me still longs for a genuine relationship.

Edited August 2, 2022 by Cash_In

[Winter Storm 240]

I can't say I am, I've never had a relationship and feel like I should have by this point in my life. I just want someone to share my hobbies with really. It's important that they also enjoy pony.

[Rainbow Cloud 17,976]

I'm single and kind of not really that bothered about being single, I'd be fine with being in a relationship if I met the right person but I don't wish to be in a relationship for the sake of being in a relationship.

[Gone Airbourne 21,977]

17 hours ago, Axel said:

Lowkey being single after a relationship is fine but it gets to you after awhile to the point where its a horrible feeling seeing everyone being together and you're just there by yourself. Still single for now but hoping that changes soon.  

Dang... this one hit me hard. Was in one for a few years... kind of a mental struggle somedays you yearn for what you lost and other days you are fine. I'll tell ya though always seems like more people are in relationships when you are single. You see yourself and your past friends happy and thriving then the unlucky ones welp that's the way it goes huh? You win some and lose some... 

[Ice Princess Silky <3 13,895]

On 2022-08-01 at 8:35 AM, abrony-mouse said:

aw :3 yes, I agree. Only commit to someone else when you are decently sure you can walk a path of total responsibility for each other. Only qualifier - it's gonna be a path you walk together a while, and during that time you won't be single, you'll be dating or engaged or whatever, and during that time you have to accept bumps along the road

 

to answer the ancient OP's question, I'm single. I want to trot the path of dating, but no luck so far    

Awww, well you're an absolute darling! I'm sure that's a path you will find yourself soon enough...

As for myself, I'm always incredibly cautious about dating unless I know the person well enough. So, it takes time and for now I will simply have to enjoy being happy single. I just don't know who to trust and simply keep to myself. The pandemic actually kinda made this much... much worse. And now it's become a bit of a habit, but hopefully one I can break out of soon. 

[Axel 1,059]

3 hours ago, SolaceFall said:

Dang... this one hit me hard. Was in one for a few years... kind of a mental struggle somedays you yearn for what you lost and other days you are fine. I'll tell ya though always seems like more people are in relationships when you are single. You see yourself and your past friends happy and thriving then the unlucky ones welp that's the way it goes huh? You win some and lose some... 

Fully agree. However the person I'm talking to right now likes me back and it feels great!

[Ice Princess Silky <3 13,895]

32 minutes ago, Axel said:

Fully agree. However the person I'm talking to right now likes me back and it feels great!

This makes me so happy to know, Axel. You're an awesome, fun-loving dude. You deserve only the best! 
Also.... *ahemm...*

Spoiler

UWU *ships it*

 

[Axel 1,059]

1 hour ago, Silk Glamour said:

This makes me so happy to know, Axel. You're an awesome, fun-loving dude. You deserve only the best! 
Also.... *ahemm...*

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UWU *ships it*

 

You are such a sneaky pegasus with your words....

[Ice Princess Silky <3 13,895]

1 hour ago, Axel said:

You are such a sneaky pegasus with your words....

Hey, once that ship has sailed I'll be left alone in the island, with no one else to pick on, so you better believe I'm gonna keep picking on you until it does. 

[ZiggWheelsManning 10,297]

6 minutes ago, Silk Glamour said:

Hey, once that ship has sailed I'll be left alone in the island, with no one else to pick on, so you better believe I'm gonna keep picking on you until it does. 

Can I keep you company on that island Silky?  

[Ice Princess Silky <3 13,895]

24 minutes ago, ZiggWheelsManning said:

Can I keep you company on that island Silky?  

Yay! Someone to share the coconuts with! 

[Winter Storm 240]

I'm not even sure where I could meet the sort of girl I am looking for, it feels all so hopeless.

[Axel 1,059]

21 hours ago, Silk Glamour said:

Hey, once that ship has sailed I'll be left alone in the island, with no one else to pick on, so you better believe I'm gonna keep picking on you until it does. 

I'm taking you with me closet furry

[ZiggWheelsManning 10,297]

Doing okay in this single lane, but it is taking a toll on me, primarily the top of my head  

[Savy 5,077]

I mean I'm perfectly fine being single right now, not in any hurry to rush into a relationship right now.

[Dreambiscuit 9,691]

When I was single I was fine with it, but to be honest I’m a lot happier now that I’m hitched.

[Treeglow Flicker 13,669]

It's a bad idea for me to get into a relaionship right now due to my long term plans. So I guess I'm happy with being single for now, but once I settle where I want to be (which is an entirely different country), then I'm definitely going to want to find someone to spend the rest of my life with.

[Clawdeen 14,139]

Absolutely. I don’t need someone to feel validated.

[ZiggWheelsManning 10,297]

Steady pace, while things in the weather are awful  

[Old Accnt. 3,149]

I'm doing alright and i want to stay single

relationships seems like too much work i'm too lazy for that

[Brony Number 42 10,069]

I'm making the most money I've ever made, and I'm not gonna be someone else's retirement plan.

[They call me Loyalty 1,948]

I could be worse. I was just talking with my mother about this, actually. Because she has been single for more than thirty years. And I was trying to understand the reason, since she wouldn't give me a straight answer. I know she is traumatized, by the way.

Also, she is more vulnerable because of the endocrine problem in our family. Which made her a magnet for abusive people back in school, and then my own father. Because people with hypogonadism often fail to read social cues, or are over-trusting, leading to victimization. So, I believe she is afraid of getting another person like my father. An abusive man who lies and manipulates to get personal. And gets violent when he cannot.

There is also the self-hatred, impotence, depression and chronic fatigue she is dealing with. Which is familiar to me.

And after reading more about how common abuse seems to be in relationships, and the kind of violence some people are willing to commit against each other. I am paralized. Much like her.

It is similar with this woman I saw the other day, with her child falling behind like it didn't exist to her. And she had this thousand yard stare in her eyes. That was abuse.

And I think my mother realized this with my father, and she is unwilling to face reality anymore. She has abandoned herself in a way.

But that is more or less the reason I am single, without getting into the genetic issues, self-esteem, etc. So, for people who are already suffering from a debilitating condition... and considering she didn't answer to the question. I think we have both arrived at the answer.

Edited December 18, 2022 by They call me Loyalty

[ZiggWheelsManning 10,297]

Hope your life turns around for the better very soon