Are You Self-Conscious?

[TheSupremeLeaderOfChaos 1,211]

I used to be really self-conscious. I'm much more confident now, but every now and then I lapse into fear that others are judging me. I just had to realize, acting shy and self-conscious draws more attention to you, not less. And you also have to realize that, on the inside, a lot of people feel just like you! Try and list the things you like about yourself. That always made me feel better!

[Zygen 6,066]

Oh Self conscious am I ever...

 

ok first of all, I look ugly.

 

I'm also shy and  not the best at being social alot of times, I also just say the stupidest stuff, and when I do talk its normally either a bad attempt to be funny, or just me saying something thats really ignorant sounding.

 

I also don't have many things I consider myself talented at, actually any honestly. I think i suck at everything.

To go hand and hand with everything I also have like no self esteem, I could literally write a book or something on my flaws and things I dislike about myself, I'll spare it here though.

 

Even though I'm smarter then some people, but i don't consider myself that intelligent at all. 

 

I also sometimes when I do open up talk way to much and annoy people away.

 

Idk i'm gonna stop, because I may just go on a rant about the amount I dislike myself and less about what makes me self conscious and more what I'm self conscious about.

 

Oh I also did I mention I spend a good bit of time alot of times trying to find out what to wear in rare ocasions where i'm going to somewhere besides school for like band events or something like that where I actually don't wear a uniform or something? I spend a bunch of time unable to decide what to wear because I don't want to get insulted for wearing this or that. Yet i'm a guy.

Edited July 19, 2013 by Zygen

[ReGen 1,466]

Ah, WheatleyCore.... We meet again. 

 

Anyways, i'm not terribly self-conscious in the way of looks, but rather i'm more worried about what people perceive me as. I want people to think of me as that guy that always happy and cheery and everybody can like. That's why it upsets me when people think of me as that weird dork. 

[Planty 1,053]

I'm not terribly self concious but sometimes when I go to some "very smart" events I can get really worried about looks and weather I will fit in or not with other people.

 

I mainly get worried about what people will think of me. Though it bothers me less and less nowadays, something with MLP really helped me with as I realised what someone likes to do, shouldn't matter and I shouldn't judge the book by it's cover, so to speak !

[DND 2,355]

Ugh, all the time. I used to really not be, but people laugh at everything I do, and I'm being serious. I'm talking to my friend about homework one day, and then a couple of unintelligent douche-bags have to comment on everything I say. People have called me ugly, weird, and annoying, but It's just what all these druggies do when they feel bad about themselves. Honestly, half of my friends are grumpy all of the time, and they never really seem to do anything that makes me feel like I'm their friend. I mean, I'm like the only one who doesn't get invited to go out for food during lunch at school. And most of them don't have money either. Sometimes I feel really appreciated. (NOT) And It's one of the worst things I personally hate to feel. So I'm pretty self-aware of what I do, so I don't end up to be the 'odd-one-out' like my older friends. It's not like I'm awkward... I'm just that euphoric small kid that likes to make occasional jokes, and engage in conversations. I don't talk about things like ponies, or whatever.  

Edited July 19, 2013 by IncognitoKiwoy

[Fluttershyfan94 5,744]

First I just want to point out that I'm very, very handsome..    Very good looking and stuff. If I keep saying that to myself then I am.

But I'm also very, very self conscious. I just don't like people judging how handsome I am. I'm also a little socially awkward and quiet so I don't know.. I'm self conscious, it has gotten a little better though but still I often don't really know how to act around a lot of people, so people probably judge that. I have learned with time to just not give a fuck, which is what I'm doing now and it helps.

 

 

One way is just getting yourself into shape, it can help your self esteem.

[Vay 175]

I'm horribly self conscious. It comes from an emotionally dysfunctional family, and being bullied a lot at school.

:/

On the bright side, I think it has given me a high level of compassion. I wouldn't wish harm on anyone.

Being from an abusive family myself I kind of agree with this thought. I think it can go either way though and my brother and I are excellent examples. Sometimes I'm way too compassionate and my brother has the compassion and sensitivity of a brick. People survive in different ways, some of us feel all the pain, and some of us block it all out. I have to admit if I am self conscious it is rooted usually from my abuse.

 

*wangst post*

[ZineKitten 9]

Being from an abusive family myself I kind of agree with this thought. I think it can go either way though and my brother and I are excellent examples. Sometimes I'm way too compassionate and my brother has the compassion and sensitivity of a brick. People survive in different ways, some of us feel all the pain, and some of us block it all out. I have to admit if I am self conscious it is rooted usually from my abuse.

 

*wangst post*

I totally get exactly what you're saying. I called it emotionally dysfunctional but it's a nicer way of saying abusive.

My brother just doesn't give a hoot about what others think or feel, and I care too much. Seeing people go through bad stuff makes me really upset, and cry.

 

I wish people would understand that sometimes the most difficult part of coming out of an abusive family dynamic is that it's like... I feel like I work with different rules to life. I can understand complex concepts, but I don't get how I'm supposed to "validate" my view of life when I'm not sure I'm being honest with myself. (My dad always accused me of lieing when I mentioned any abuse.)

 

Oh well. It builds character, right?

(Angstttyy!)

[Sylentmana 271]

I'm pretty self-conscious.  I'm always careful to try to blend into a crowd when I'm in public because I don't like it when multiple people are paying attention to me.  Sometimes I feel so self-conscious that I won't leave my apartment unless I absolutely have to.

[xblackrosesx 81]

Sadly, yes. Bullying and abuse made me really self conscious so now I pretty much hate myself and how I look and that stuff. :/ 

Things like that really mess a person up. 

Edited July 20, 2013 by xblackrosesx

[tranglam 28]

I can be. But usually only when someone I don't know makes a comment. If it's someone I do know it means nothing really, even if it's positive. quite sad reall.

[SCS 7,537]

For me, 'yes all of the time', it's because of my looks and I'm afraid people are judging me at every angle.

 

I can totally empathize with feeling like people are judging me at every angle. I get more confident as I get older though. 

 

A recent example would be how nervous I can feel when volunteering at a certain place. I often feel a stress/tension in my muscles when I do things, because I'm so scared of doing something stupid that would make people laugh at me or judge me. On the other hand, I'm starting to learn how to not worry so much about this stuff anymore through these experiences. Volunteering in a public setting was way, way out of my comfort zone, but I've come to really love it, and the more I do it, the less frightening it becomes, which in turn gradually increases my self-confidence overall over time.

[Foreigner And Lover 207]

I couldn't care less what people thought of me. I was always the obnoxious kid who gets thrown out of the classroom every week in high school. I was kind of self conscious in elementary, but when I stopped caring I made a hell of a lot more friends. Funny how that works out, really.

[ReverseFaller 2,484]

No, not at all I learned a long time ago that caring about what others think is a waste of time and only serves to do no more than just make you feel like crap for no good reason. I am who I am and I like who I am and though I am not perfect neither is anybody else so why should I beat myself up over my imperfections when everyone else has imperfections as well? I am all for self improvement, but you can't improve yourself if you won't even acknowledge what is actually good about yourself as well as the bad.

That was said perfectly. I agree, this is pretty much my opinion on the situation. I don't have anything else to say...EarthBendingProdigy nailed it! 

[Valormos 262]

me i dont really care what people think of me mostly cause if you dont like the way I am then I dont want to be friends with that person

[Despair 114]

I used to care about what people thought about me, then I realized those people were high school idiot. Now I couldn't care less about what people say about me. Heck, I even crack jokes about my flaws.

[Lucky Bolt 35,106]

I am a lot, way more than I used to be. 

[Early Sunsets 2,108]

I'm self conscious about every little thing, especially my appearance and my personality. It's why I never leave my house except for work if I can help it.

[Here No Longer 5,281]

I'm probably a ways more self-conscious than I should be.

[Sherem 4,807]

can't be self conscious, if I have no self-steem

[TBD 17,262]

Now that you’ve mentioned it..*thinkin* wow I felt this is the first time that I notice I’m self-consciously aware.

Joke aside more or less.

[Awkward Segway 318]

I feel self-conscious when people are looking at me (or might be looking at me).

[Cash In 22,725]

I tend to be very self-conscious, due to being more of a negative individual than most. My confidence has improved over the years, though that isn't saying much.

[The Historian 516]

I am hugely self-conscious. But, being transgender will screw you up big time. And I got bullied hard in school and that fucked me up permanently. While I've undone some of that damage, it's stuck with me and made me weary of what other people think.

[Narcissus 356]

I'm rarely, if ever, self-conscious. I'm weird and I know it. I don't care what others think of me so it's not an issue. Simple as that.